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For years now, I've been studying how to conquer emotions. You see, a lot of major decisions and even failures are based on poor judgments anchored on emotional bias. Take anger for example and how we give in to hurting others because we are angry. Others even resort to killing another person because of anger and personal issues. Families sometimes are divided because of the feuds founded on emotional setbacks and feelings.
"You are not your emotions," as a wise nun told me some years ago. You can control them not the other way around. This concept was then supported by the international bestseller of Stephen Covey when he published " Seven Habits of Highly Effective People". A chapter on that book delves into how we could choose our actions towards a stimulus.
There are some friends of mine who are asking persistently on who will I vote as president this May 9. I would then be entangled into a lot of thought processes since I could feel that they have their weapons ready for a word war. First, I have my own choice and they must respect that, No amount of cajoling could lead me to be influenced by them since I have my own discernment on how to vote wisely. Then, I find it counterproductive to argue on things which are sometimes based on how others FEEL about the candidate. Of course, feelings are important but the mind must be used as well since the election is not just about you and me. It has a macro effect that could cascade to generations.
Here's something: I like fruit scented colognes and my brother prefers musk. I could tell him the benefits of having the sweet scent over the woody one. He could also give his reason on how others find one attractive with a musky scent. But will we allow our choices to mar our relationship? Will I become a victim of my own insecurities of not being listened as an older brother? In the end, it is our personal choices that matter. It is how we exercise our freedom to choose that allows us to become better individuals.
It is OK to be a supporter. It's even OK to be angry when truth and justice are not prevailing. But it is not good to divide the country because of the petty reason of supporting per se. After the elections, it is not a good picture when we continue to be divisive and not become team players in molding the nation we love. What would happen to our efforts to build a better country if we allow division based on emotions to rule over our sanity?
I still believe that our individual efforts are the most important ones that count. In pursuing Management, I realize time and again how proactive actions of individuals in an organization matter. Thus, we are the ones to run our own little "areas".
I still believe that our individual efforts are the most important ones that count. In pursuing Management, I realize time and again how proactive actions of individuals in an organization matter. Thus, we are the ones to run our own little "areas".
When my brother pursues his master's degree, I could continue inspiring and supporting him even if I realize that most of his friends chose musk cologne as the best there is than the fruity ones. What matters most is the fact that my own beliefs and convictions are respected and not ridiculed.
What I feel is important. But what I think and feel could be better.
