Imprisoned

 

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Bas unoy mahilaong nan iban.

There are people who are so critical to their movements, always censoring their words among themselves and imprisoned with the thought of pleasing others. They are not free to express themselves. They fear not to be accepted.

People who have a fear of rejection are afraid of not being liked, being abandoned, not fitting in or being alone. People who fear rejection may struggle with low self-esteem, lack of confidence, shame, or guilt, and spend a lot of time and energy worrying about what others think of them. They will often neglect their own needs or let people take advantage of them to be liked (riser, 2022).

There are those who feel like we are not good enough for others they cower on thought of expressing their ideas and opinions. They even proceed to the deed of criticizing others who have strong personalities and think: I must not be that kind of person.

Betancourt (2022) mentions that we live in a society where we compare ourselves to others. And when we don’t measure up, it can feel like a personal failure. When you compare yourself to others, you will always find someone better than you. It’s important to remember that everyone is unique and has different strengths and weaknesses.

Why consider other’s opinion towards you? As long as your intentions are good, all would be well. We understand when NOT to do something especially with a reflective mindset. But to constantly curtail your growth because of what other may think is not healthy.

Don’t be imprisoned in a cell you created yourself. You will never reach the level of success designed for you if you will constantly allow for others to validate your actions.

Unquenchable

Hawoy kun way kwarta…

Money is important. There is no doubt about it. People have bills to pay and needs to address. The lack of finances will oftentimes de-motivate people to move around. In this expensive world, happiness seems to be equated with having money.

But, would this be the main reason why some people place their credibility to waste? Is money the main motivator why even some educated persons resort to dishonesty? Or, is there a deep meaning behind the greed to have more of it…

Extrinsic motivation occurs when we are motivated to perform a behavior or engage in an activity to earn a reward or avoid punishment.  In this instance, people are coerced into behaving in a specific way, not because they want to, but because they either want something in return (most often monetary reward), or because they want to avoid something unpleasant such as being reprimanded or losing their job (Hearn, 2018)

“People have three psychological needs – to feel autonomous, to feel competent and to feel related to others,” according to psychologist Edward Deci. Payment does not fulfill these needs. Over-emphasis on financial reward undermines autonomy and therefore intrinsic motivation, he says.

Probably, greed on money stems down to deprivation. Psychoanalytically, deprivation is the reduced fulfillment of a desire or need that is felt to be essential. Sigmund Freud (1927) considered deprivation the result of the frustration of a drive that could not be satisfied because of a prohibition during early childhood.

There are those who have already money yet they still crave for more. Even to the point of abusing their powers, they are driven to hoard it without thinking about the difficulties of those they are victimizing. Probably, they were deprived of food and material possessions and recognition early on?

We contend that materialistic cues would bring about personal relative deprivation. As many other goals, the aspiration for material acquisition may be inert most of the time. However, a materialistic environment can activate materialistic aspirations (Bauer et al., 2012; Kim, 2013).

Money and material possessions serve many evolutionary and practical functions. Although excessive materialism has been linked to diminished well-being (Dittmar et al., 2014), it is still very appealing to many people to acquire more and more material possessions.

Again, it is in self-evaluation and reflection what deprivations one has experienced which propels the inner person to be UNCONTENTED.

Darkness from Within

 

Jaoy imo kilaya na tanan tawo sanan butang jaoy gajod ila mahisaway?

The term “Dark Triad” refers to a trio of negative personality traits—narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy—which share some common malevolent features. The construct was coined by researchers Delroy L. Paulhus and Kevin M. Williams in 2002.

People with these traits tend to be callous and manipulative, willing to do or say practically anything to get their way. They have an inflated view of themselves and are often shameless about self-promotion. These individuals are likely to be impulsive and may engage in dangerous behavior without any regard for how their actions affect others (Williams, 2022).

If someone is going to succeed, these people will likely find faults and say negative things about the persons in the limelight. They cannot endure the fame of others. You often hear then saying: I don’t like him/her for no particular reasons at all. Chances are, the subjects may pose a threat to their egocentric intentions.

Superiority complex was first identified by Alfred Adler, an early psychologist, in his theory of individual psychology. He defined superiority complexes as a reaction to a deep feeling of inferiority.

People with very strong feelings of inferiority have a hard time convincing themselves that they have actually achieved enough. To compensate, Adler argues that these people play up their accomplishments and opinions to make themselves feel better.

Let us accept that these persons exist. They are around us. But with deep understanding about our own SELF, let us not allow them to belittle us. Let them wallow on their beliefs that they are better that ALL of us where in fact THEY HAVE NOT PROVEN ANYTHING AT ALL.

They can continue to stain their environment with the darkness from their hearts; they can continue seeing others as competitors. But we can be victorious with our simple accomplishments that they do not have.