Matured

 

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Magbinata pa bisan tiguyang na…

When justifications are made, it must be consistent to the main subject and are not anchored on emotions. People who are reactive would lead to NOT understanding themselves. Reflections and self-assessment are always encouraged to attain maturation.

Behavioral development is focused on cognitive and emotional development, skill acquisition, atypical behavior development/reduction, socialization, education, and language development. It looks at the role of biological and environmental variables that affect behavior development, with a primary interest in the role of reinforcement and environmental contingencies that influence behavior change (Roane, 2024).

Why is it that there are those people who has behavioral development deficits? Conflict will often occur with social interactions in personal and professional settings when emotional immaturity occurs.

Daniel Goleman, who popularized the term "emotional intelligence" in his ground-breaking book Emotional Intelligence, identified five key aspects of the skill: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills.

Self-Awareness is understanding and recognizing your own emotions. This goes beyond correctly identifying your feelings.

Self-regulation essentially means finding the right time, avenue and place to express your emotions.

Emotionally intelligent motivation refers to a sense of being motivated by enjoying what you do, consistently working toward goals and setting high standards for yourself, even when surrounded by obstacles.

Empathy: The ability to put yourself, emotionally, into another person’s situation is a critical component of emotional intelligence.

In the context of emotional intelligence, social skills refer to your communication skills, conflict management, rapport building and your ability to be a good team-player.

In the end, it is the person inside who will monitor and decide if the inner self embraces maturation. If not, the child inside will always rear its immature head.

Echoing, Mirroring, Nothing

 

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Yay kaugalingon na estilo, mga kinopya da…

There are those whose identities are complex. They try to mirror the words, mannerisms and way of life of others. They do not have distinct personalities since they only copy what they think is ideal at the moment.

The chameleon effect is a phenomenon that finds us mimicking the mannerisms, gestures, or facial expressions of the people we interact with most often. It causes you to subconsciously make behavioral changes to match the behavior of people in your close social circles, or even strangers (Chartrand, Bargh, 1999).

There is nothing wrong with this if the copied manners are for the better. The problem lies on the formation of one’s personality or identity.

Personal identity is the concept you develop about yourself that evolves over the course of your life. This may include aspects of your life that you have no control over, such as where you grew up or the color of your skin, as well as choices you make in life, such as how you spend your time and what you believe.

But when the formation of identity is dependent on constantly mirroring the personality of others, disruption to the formation of personal identity happens. This is because the individual constantly thirst to have what others (especially those considered as “ideal”) are doing or having.

Lack of self-identity can negatively impact mental health, causing anxiety and low self-esteem. Signs of lacking self-identity include feeling lost or aimless, high stress levels, being like a chameleon, mood swings, lack of purpose, and low self-esteem (Bastos, 2023).

Erik Erikson believed that identity was formed by experimenting with different behaviors and roles, as well as through social interactions. Researcher James Marcia expanded upon Erikson's theory by suggesting that the balance between identity and confusion lies in making a commitment to an identity.

When one could not commit to an identity and constantly desire to be someone else or to have the characters and possession of others, an unhappy life awaits.

Thinking About Thinking

 

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Balanse na pangisip…

“Thinking too much leads to paralysis by analysis. It’s important to think things through, but many use thinking as a means of avoiding action.” –Robert Herjavec

Enough has been said about thinking too little. But there are also those who think too much. There is even an adage mentioning that if you spend too much thinking on a certain thing, you will never get it done.

When stalling occurs, you are actually trying to explore possibilities, you are giving yourself a leeway to ponder on a decision that you have to make. But what if you are stalling all the time?

Daniel Kahneman’s 2011 bestselling book “Thinking Fast and Slow” describes two distinct thinking systems: Fast thinking (system 1): which is automatic, intuitive, error-prone and used for most common decisions. Slow thinking (system 2): which is effortful, reasoned, more reliable and used for complex decisions.

Fast thinking is a primal survival mechanism that uses heuristics, or cognitive shortcuts, to quickly respond to threats. It is fast but those shortcuts are ultimately unreliable. In contrast, slow thinking requires considerable attention and delivers a more accurate understanding.

Based on these findings, we can say that Thinking Slow might give us the best decisions. But saving our lives and acting quickly can also be meaningful hence we have to Think Fast.

Fast and slow thinking is one of the most significant mental models listed on modelthinkers.com because it underpins so much of our modern understanding of behavioral science, behavioral economics, psychology, marketing and humanity.

Metacognition is the process of thinking about thinking. It’s about examining how we take in and process information, and figuring out ways we can do that more efficiently.

On a practical level, practicing metacognition can help us understand better what will work for us and what won’t.

Ergo, we have to think fast sometimes and think slow most of the time.

When the Brain Gets Distracted

 

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Hapit na mahigumad kay ya sa boot nagpanaw…

There was a bus full of students going home from school. The driver had a medical emergency and only one rider saw the event. He stood up to maneuverer the bus into a stop saving all on board. Why is it that he was the only one to see the event? All the rest were busy using mobile phones.

In his 1890 book “The Principles of Psychology,” psychologist and philosopher William James wrote that attention "is the taking possession by the mind, in clear and vivid form, of one out of what may seem several simultaneously possible objects or trains of thought.

Attention is the ability to actively process specific information in the environment while tuning out other details.

Distractions and multitasking are generally detrimental to learning and memory. The current experiments examined how distractions and divided attention influence one’s ability to selectively remember valuable information (Middlebrooks, 2017).

Research results show that there is really an effect to the brain when it is constantly distracted. The brain can only focus on one thing and when we subject it to multiple tasks, it adapts but will not function well.

According to cognifit.com, focused attention is the brain's ability to concentrate its attention on a target stimulus for any period of time. Focused attention is a type of attention that makes it possible to quickly detect relevant stimuli.

Attention is optimal when individuals are focused on one task at a time. However, with many competing sources vying for our attention, multitasking has become the norm for most [people] (Carrier, Cheever, Rosen, Benitez, & Chang, 2009).

While smartphones and related mobile technologies are recognized as flexible and powerful tools that, when used prudently, can augment human cognition, there is also a growing evidence that habitual involvement with these devices may have a negative and lasting impact on users’ ability to think, remember, pay attention, and regulate emotion.

Thinking or cognition is having glitches these days due to such distractions. People are so engrossed with the gadgets they do not mind that their ATTENTION and THINKING are degenerating.