Matinamajon. We often hear people belittle
others to the point that one could wonder whether the one displacing the
comment is a superhero in the making. We cringe on the thought of being
criticized much more being labeled into something we are not. We dislike
hearing people looking into us as if we are specimens of an experiment. Yet
there are those individuals amongst the society who thrive in to this act. They
act superior to us. They see us as lesser beings. Their world is so perfect it
seems that we do not belong in it.
The Cambridge
Dictionary defines belittling as an act of making an action or a person seem unimportant.
Brown (2013) said that belittling is the intentional act of making another feel
worthless, empty, and dismissed. It is
one of many forms of psychological and emotional abuse. Belittling another often creates a personal
emptiness and void. It can create a
sense of loneliness and despair in the lives of many.
But why do others
dwell on this act? Is it a crutch since they themselves are deprived of something
that there is a need to fortify the weakness inside him/her?
Some people, really
want to be on the top, they believe that they are powerful enough to lead, and
take the top most position in this ladder. Some, even if they are not all that
powerful and dominant, have come up with an excuse for why they should be on
the top. This is nothing but a motive to re-assert their social status, often
born out of jealousy and greed. These also has other roots. These people are
willing to do anything to make themselves appear better than yourself. They
usually: 1)Make the smallest of your mistakes a huge event; 2)Try to prove
others are wrong, even if it is the mundane thing; 3)Always try to assert their
false status…Soon, they have this feeling of entitlement to their
pseudo-position (Manivannan, 2016).
Those who bring you
down are either unhappy or find prejudice as an avenue for them to feel
important and being noticed. Most of the insecure people tend to judge others
and their work so that others’ attention will be diverted to them rather than
the one being appreciated. They always see something wrong with the persons and
the outputs they are able to create. And since they do not have the capacity to
do such, they will then resort to belittling the person or his/her creation.
According to Evans
(2017): There are lots of different kinds of people who bring you down. On one
extreme is the very gruff person with an obvious chip on her shoulder, and when
she comes in the room, she makes no bones about the fact that she is going to
put you down or invalidate your ideas. You have no doubt who those people are.
On the other extreme,
you have people who are very polite and gracious. And yet, after talking with
them, somehow you're aware of your faults and shortcomings, your limitations,
the misery or danger of everything, etc. These people may compliment you and
smile and do all the other stuff you associate with a friend, and yet somehow
you feel bad after being with him or her.
That’s why, choose!
We have the power in our hands to filter whom to affiliate with and whom to
discard in our lives. Our existence in this world is fleeting and it is not
good to fill it with painful experiences because of the ailments of others. It
is their responsibility to make their minds healthy especially if they are
already adults. Also, education is within our reach these days. If they choose
NOT to understand themselves through self-help books and educational feedback,
let them be. Their pathetic world must not muddle with ours!
Belittling words will
fight for control of your subconscious. Don’t let them win. Once you’ve fully
processed the words you heard, it’s time to counteract them. No matter what the
words were, whether they diminished your intelligence, capabilities,
profession, age, gender, sexual preference, etc., you can find evidence in your
life that proves them wrong. Take the time to gather that evidence.
Humans are biased
towards negativity. It’s so easy to believe the mean things we hear, it’s far
more difficult to believe the good. So you have to fight for your thoughts.
Fight for your subconscious and make losing not an option (strongsensitivesouls.com, 2018).
In the end, their
pitiful existence and judgmental words might just be mere dust on our shoulders.
All we need to do is brush them off and continue with our quest to make our
imperfections matter.
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