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mosalig. In an organization, resources like people and time are
maximized so to have good if not quality outputs. These could be done when
managers designate tasks to people whose terms of references must be clear for
them to attain the desired goals. Yet, there are those whose work attitudes are
not at par with the standards that the managers would opt to assign them with
nothing since their outcomes are not good. If there is an output, the processes
are marred with negative relationships to the point that feelings are hurt and
people get disheartened.
The Mayo Clinic research
group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which
people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for
admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they're
superior to others and have little regard for other people's feelings. At the
workplace, a pathologically narcissistic co-worker can be annoying and
frustrating at best, and a serious threat to your career at worst (Preston Ni,
2015).
It is in this light when
managers see them as a threat to others and the organization that either they
are not assigned with a task or they feign catatonia on the selfish motives of
these culprits. You see, narcissists work only for themselves. They see work as
a filler for their deep hunger of recognition. The “common good” is alien to
them.
Human Resource practitioners
often attempt to maximize the capacity of these individuals yet they often fail
since the disorder in the heads of these persons always prevail. That is the
reason why the mental health law is essential. There is a need for us to have
examinations in the head since mental illness is affecting a person’s
well-being similar to physical health. If found sick, clinical interventions
must be administered so to help the sick ones than continue wreaking havoc to
others and the organization per se.
Psychology Today divulges
that many narcissists are unable to relate to individuals as equals. They
either take an inferior position and defer to you, or a superior position and
presume that they’re in some ways better than you. For them, both the superior
and inferior postures are calculated to sway you to give them what they want –
such is the purpose of relationships to them. They lack the empathy and
humanity to treat people simply as equitable human beings.
Then, how can we deal with
them especially if they are in the workplace?
First, ignore them. Let them
wallow in their own pathetic lives. Let them die with envy as you continue to
live a healthy mindset. They are insane you see, and you are sane. But if the
go beyond their limits, FIGHT BACK! If they perform character assassination
towards you, air out their incapacity as well. Tell the world that THEY ARE
MENTALLY ILL. Narcissists could not deal with criticism so they might shy away
from you since you are a person who fights back. If they have the capacity to
hurt you intentionally, do the same! Anyway, such persons are insignificant in
your lives, right? They only feel important but in reality, they are not.
Malkin (2017) said that narcissists
weren’t given secure love when growing up. They weren’t appreciated for just
being themselves; they were only celebrated for what they achieved. When people
can’t count on empathy from those around them, they stop trusting, and they
feel ashamed of their normal human frailties. They stop trying to get their
emotional needs met from love and instead try to be special — better than
others. Better looking, more talented, smarter or more accomplished. They stop
trying to soothe their insecurities by relying on people and instead turn to a
fantasy self where they are superior.
It is sometimes unfair to
realize that these selfish individuals are making us as the outlets of the
inadequacies of their parents. We sometimes get depressed due to the oppression
they have given to us. Yet the knowledge that they are actually insecure
children inside their bodies empowers us not to be affected by them. They are
merely products of parental dysfunction. And since they can affect negatively
to others, family support and clinical supervision/intervention must be
employed.
We continue to do well and
try to make REAL achievements. Theirs are fake and glorified ones which they
believe are “big” enough.
If ever they will create
gossips about us to maliciously destroy our credibility, we are secure in the
fact that NO ONE believes them. They are crazy, you know.