Yay
boot! This will be heard when someone gets irritated with
another person of the right age and performs immature acts. There are instances
when physical growth is already obvious but the emotional capability of the
person is still that of an adolescent. People might see you as old enough yet
the actions and reactions to stimuli are that of a simpleton.
Maturation (according to alleydog.com) is the process of learning
to cope and react in an emotionally appropriate way. It does not necessarily
happen along with aging or physical growth, but is a part of growth and
development. A situation a person must deal with at a young age prepares them
for the next and so on into adulthood. Maturation does not stop when physical
growth ends - it continues through adulthood.
But there are also instances
when maturation is hampered or even curtailed. Pikunas (2010) mentioned that the
sequential changes that occur in human personality and behavior include not
only the unfolding and perfection of different dimensions but also the gradual
deterioration of those dimensions. Thus, intellectual development encompasses
both its emergence and perfection in the years of childhood and adolescence,
and its gradual impairment in the late years of life. In order to understand
personality and behavior, therefore, it is essential to trace the sequence of changes
that occur in childhood and adolescence and also in the adult and later years
of life. The significance of these later periods is great because the
percentage of persons in this population group, as well as their influence on
society, is growing at a considerable rate.
Again, we trace the
importance of childhood as a formative phase since most of the things we do as
an adult are either the good products of our being a child or the deficits we
have during those days.
People who have fond
memories of childhood, specifically their relationships with their parents,
tend to have better health, less depression and fewer chronic illnesses as
older adults, according to research published by the American Psychological
Association.
Recent research suggests
that the role of other people and how children feel can be more important than
the events. Getting things a child wants, academic issues, or failing to make a
sports team are not strongly related to the adult perspective of childhood
happiness. It is feeling loved by parents that makes the most influential
contribution to childhood happiness. As adults, we no longer feel that the
number of toys, sports trophies, or top grades we received as children were as
important as we thought. What is important to us as adults is knowing that we
shared joys and sorrows, successes and disappointments with people who loved
us. Long after our memories of toys, gifts, test scores have faded, the
feelings of trust, comfort, reassurance, and love remain (Batcho, 2012).
With our encounters with
people in the workplace who manifest immaturity, we could directly infer that
they do not have good experiences and relationships with their parents. Their
anger, irritation, envy, jealousy and other negative acts stem from the lack of
affection and attention they receive from their parents. Yet, it seems that
such mistakes are ours since they will then attack our weaknesses by their
so-called “power” and try to gain what they did not have during the times when
they were young! What a pathetic way of doing things!
If the person refuses to act
properly and continually causes problems for you, ignore them. They can’t act
childishly in your presence if they aren’t allowed in it. People that you may
need to see more frequently, however, are difficult to ignore. If a co-worker
or a family member is the one who is immature, try to stay away from them as
much as possible and keep the encounters that you do have brief. If you need to
be around them for extended periods of time, find another person to keep you
occupied so that you can prevent them from talking to you. They will eventually
get the message that their behavior is no longer welcome in your life (Buckley,
2017).
The world is full of
happiness and wondrous experiences. These immature persons could ruin such
wonderful things to happen. Do not allow them to take away your peace and let
them wallow with their pathetic lives. It is not your fault that they were
deprived of joy and exciting childhood. Let them repair themselves. Their health
and well-being are their responsibilities.
The truth is, this isn't
your battle to fight — if the person is not willing to recognize his behavior
and take steps to change it, there is little you can do. It may be particularly
difficult for an emotionally immature person to realize he needs to change, as
a hallmark of emotional immaturity is blaming other people or circumstances for
one's bad behavior (Griffin, 2018).
The author continued that if
the person won’t see reason or won't go away, you may need to be slightly
confrontational and tell him that you cannot engage with him any further.
Gather up all your courage and politely ask him to leave you alone, while
simultaneously removing yourself from the caustic environment.
We deserve to be happy. If
we are doing our work well, we will not allow others to destroy our spirits to
continue doing what we maturely think as right and proper. We will not let
someone destroy our credibility because he/she is nursing on his/her sanity.
We continue to check on our
mental health through reflection and introspection. These may help us deal with
our inner demons and become a better colleague.
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