Stressed ako pirme! This
could be heard in the workplace and these complaints are always directed to the
workload and the people around those who are edging towards burnout. One could wonder why there are people who
could do away with the so-called stress gracefully. It seems that they
understand how to deal with the pressures and see the way out of its negative
effects to the emotions, body and the entire well-being.
Psychology Today mentions
that stress generally refers to two things: the psychological perception of
pressure, on the one hand, and the body's response to it, on the other, which
involves multiple systems, from metabolism to muscles to memory.
A stressful event—whether an
external phenomenon like the sudden appearance of a snake on the path or an
internal event like fear of losing one's job when the boss yells—triggers a
cascade of hormones, including adrenaline and cortisol, that surge through the
entire body, speeding heartbeat and the circulation of blood to support quick
action, mobilizing fat and sugar for fast energy, focusing attention to track
the danger, preparing muscles for movement, and more.
Over the last few years,
this is mentioned by people who have responsibilities and relationships to the
point that one will wonder how to manage and prevent stress from overcoming
one’s equilibrium.
If you’re living with high
levels of stress, you’re putting your entire well-being at risk. Stress wreaks
havoc on your emotional status, as well as your physical health. It narrows
your ability to think clearly, function effectively, and enjoy life.
Effective stress management,
on the other hand, helps you break the hold stress has on your life, so you can
be happier, healthier, and more productive. The ultimate goal is a balanced
life, with time for work, relationships, relaxation, and fun—and the resilience
to hold up under pressure and meet challenges head on. But stress management is
not one-size-fits-all (Robinson, 2019).
There are those of us
who feed on it. Others consider this as a gauge of being effective. They
overwork themselves to show that they are functional individuals. They even
consider people who find time unwinding and enjoying their weekends as
inefficient.
At first, the term “Savior
Complex” may have a positive connotation. However, when you learn more about it
and the underlying motivations and impact on others, it is clear that this behavior
pattern can be problematic (Benton, 2017).
According to the blog
PeopleSkillsDecoded.com, the savior complex can be best defined as “A
psychological construct which makes a person feel the need to save other
people. This person has a strong tendency to seek people who desperately need
help and to assist them, often sacrificing their own needs for these people.” They also work all the time to save the company, organization or...the world.
But then again, you cannot
really change other people. You can only change your attitude towards them. If
they do stuff which may shatter your footing, you are the one to allow yourself
to be bothered. You are allowing cortisol to develop inside your system. But if
you decide NOT to let others take away your peace, all would be well.
The Second of The Four
Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is “Don’t Take Anything Personally.” This book chapter
and the following quote teaches key concepts that may provide helpful guidance
for those struggling with savior complex tendencies:
“You
are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for
your own.”
People who seek out power or
find themselves unexpectedly in positions of power often develop such ideas
about themselves; after all, their employees, citizens or dependents count on
the leader’s competence, permission, wisdom, generosity etc. to survive. In the
sense of power “going to someone’s head”, it can definitely twist up someone’s
perspective of the world. This state of being is often linked to having
delusions of grandeur, but it is not technically a diagnosable psychological
disorder (Staughton, 2017).
The direction of this
discourse is for us to realize that we cannot control everything or everybody.
Some might agree with us or others might not be aligned to our beliefs. By
having this mindset, we can avoid stress or be exposed to stressful situations
which can be counterproductive.
It is a fact of life that THINGS HAPPEN. We do not have all the control over them.
It is a fact of life that THINGS HAPPEN. We do not have all the control over them.
In the end, we must not be
enslaved by work. We must find meaning from the work we do and maintain our
well-being, God even rested on the seventh day…
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