Kagamay da ini sweldo nan maestra! A complain often
overheard from a teacher or any other government employee. Another teacher
posted on social media the different entry point salaries of teachers in other
countries highlighting the Philippines as the lowest with P20,000 as the basic
income per month. One could really wonder, why are they complaining? They are
blessed with jobs, right? There are those who are jobless and are trying their
best to find one.
Indeed, appreciation
is a difficult competency to attain.
Appreciation or
gratitude is “an emotion that is typically evoked when one receives costly,
unexpected, and intentionally rendered benefits, and is thought to play a key
role in regulating the initiation and maintenance of social relationships”
(Forster et al., 2017).
The Harvard Medical
School defines it as a thankful appreciation for what an individual receives,
whether tangible or intangible. With gratitude, people acknowledge the goodness
in their lives … As a result; gratitude also helps people connect to something
larger than themselves as individuals–whether to other people, nature, or a
higher power.
There are people,
friends and even family members who complain a lot. This is maybe caused by
training the mind to dwell on the negative side rather than looking for the
positive/beauty in a situation. There might be traumas which cause them to
complain a lot they have become unappreciative.
A number of authors
have espoused a theoretical relationship between gratitude and well-being. In a
very pragmatic way, this association seems logical. Experiencing gratitude,
thankfulness, and appreciation tends to foster positive feelings, which in
turn, contribute to one's overall sense of well-being. Therefore, gratitude
appears to be one component, among many components, that contributes to an
individual's well-being (Sansone, 2010).
The people who
manifest positive energy have the tendency to have positive dispositions and
eventually dwell on happy and peaceful spheres. The ones who bring with them
negative vibrations often feel unease, discomfort which could eventually turn
out to become illnesses in the mind and even body.
Why are they unappreciative?
Here are some manifestations according to powerofpositivity.com:
People who aren’t
thankful are always in need of some kind of assistance. Whether it is help with
bills, watching the kids or giving them a ride. They always need something from
you. They are in a perpetual state of emergency and it is usually things they
create themselves either through poor judgment or on purpose in order to create
the drama they feed on.
The thing is that
unless they need something from you, then you never hear from them. They only
turn to you for friendship when they are in a jam. You will never hear them say
“Hey let me take you out to lunch” or “let me help you with that.” If
everything is going fine then you don’t exist in their world anymore.
They may feel
entitled to your help either because you are family or they feel that you owe
them something for being their friend. They aren’t grateful because they feel
they have earned your help and you are just paying them back.
Despite all of your
help ungrateful people will turn on you. They will talk behind your back. They
will say that you never help them. That they do all of the work and you are the
ungrateful sponge. Despite all you have done for them they will tell their
friends or other family members what a horrible person you are in order to get
more sympathy from people who can’t help them.
Ungrateful people
will never let you forget that one time you weren’t able to help them. Whether
it was because of time constraints or lack of funds it doesn’t matter. They
will hold that guilt over you until the end of time.
Contemporary
research, though, paints a more complicated picture of ingratitude. People who
are ungrateful tend to be characterized by an excessive sense of
self-importance, arrogance, vanity, and an unquenchable need for admiration and
approval. Narcissists reject the ties that bind people into relationships of
reciprocity. They expect special favors and feel no need to pay back or pay
forward.
So, maybe these people
who are complaining are very good with their jobs. The teachers who are
complaining about their “meager” salaries are highly-proficient or even
distinguished?
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