Sige man kaw gud naghanap nan sajop nan iban ugsa taghanapan kaw sab nila nan sajop. Simply put, the Law of Attraction is the ability to attract into our lives whatever we are focusing on. It is believed that regardless of age, nationality, or religious belief, we are all susceptible to the laws which govern the Universe, including the Law of Attraction. Whatever you give your energy and attention to will come back to you.
There is this motivational speaker who mentioned that to be able to steer your destiny towards the success you are aiming for, discipline your thoughts into creating positive patterns. She also suggested keeping a journal of Gratefulness. We have to write the small things we feel good for the day to linger on these positivity. People who complain will always receive something worth complaining.
Bestselling author Jack Canfield mentions that the universe, through the Law of Attraction, will respond enthusiastically to both of these vibrations. It doesn’t decide which one is better for you, it just responds to whatever energy you are creating, and it gives you more of the same. You get back exactly what you put out there.
Family orientation greatly affects the mindset of the children which later be developed in adulthood. There are parents who constantly look for the negative actions of the children but fail to affirm the good deeds of the kids. By habit, children will then see the world in a gloomy and negative manner. Worse, the products of such un-nurturing families will soon go out of the society and create more negative ripples to others.
A negative mindset focuses on the nasty side of people, experiences, situations, or judgments. Negative thinking sustains such a mindset. Negative thinking is something we all engage in from time to time, but constant negativity can destroy your mental health, leaving you depressed and anxious.
Rethink Mental Illness mentions: "Negative thinking refers to a pattern of thinking negatively about yourself and your surroundings. While everyone experiences negative thoughts now and again, negative thinking that seriously affects the way you think about yourself and the world and even interferes with work/study and everyday functioning could be a symptom of a mental illness, including depression, anxiety disorders, personality disorders and schizophrenia."
Smith (2019) said that not everyone who engages in negative thinking has a mental illness, just like not everyone with a mental illness has constant negative thoughts. However, negative thinking can be detrimental to your mental health and quality of life, particularly when you can’t stop. Luckily, there are ways to end negative thoughts, but you must first look at what causes them.
So why dwell on such dark and destructive thoughts which muddle your mood? Instead of looking for the bad, why not look for the good? You see, we value our humanity. We adhere to the belief that people could always have both the good and the bad side, so why not nourish the good and eradicate the dark spots by intensifying the white and bright parts?
Looking for someone’s weaknesses is a sign of insecurity. The person is making this crutch with the belief that “he/she is not alone of being imperfect”. Fault finding is a clever device of the ego. It serves a purpose as far as the ego is concerned. The ego does not like to bring attention to itself, and fault finding helps draw attention away.
Seshadri (2020) wrote that fault finding provides a subtle lift to our self-esteem by diminishing the value of someone else. To gain self-confidence, there is an easy way and a hard way. The hard way is to work for it, but finding fault with others is an easier way out. When we find fault with others, there is a silent inference that we are better. But that feeling of being better ultimately makes us feel insecure as it depends on the existence of a fault within another, whether real or not. Fault finding propagates this subtle psychological lift.
Still, we reap what we sow, right? So, prepare yourself for the backlash. We always experience what we allow ourselves to be exposed into.
The sanest thing then is to dwell on the positive side of everything. A more rigorous method to reduce or eliminate fault finding is turning within through the eyes of introspection. For one fault we identify with someone or something, if we resolve to find ten errors within ourselves, we will become so busy digging up dirt within ourselves, that there may not be many opportunities to point fingers at others.
Keep a journal, for a start!
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