Pompous

Way makalupos. We have encountered people who do not consider defeat. They always complain in competitions as if they are always the best and could not be defeated. They always dominate discussions and think that their ideas are of importance than others. They walk out on events if these are not centered to them. They are very competitive that the concept of learning from mistakes is alien.

Competitive people do whatever it takes to fulfill their desires to keep up with status, winning at sports, board games and even the lottery. These types of people are very confident in themselves and the law of attraction are key elements to having a winning attitude and doing better than most everyone else. These people are being labeled as conceited, self-absorbed, too picky, full of themselves and not being flexible and sometimes passive aggressive (Benimati, 2017).

When you are with such personalities, you oftentimes get stressed or would want to breathe some fresh air. There is a compulsion to go away since there might come a time that your social etiquette would be fouled when you give retorts and create an argument which you could never win. They will make their own stands even if they already know that they are NOT correct. Again, they do not want defeat.

Research studies suggest that there are different kinds of self-esteem. Some people may have a secure sense of self, regardless of the situation, whereas others may have unstable or fragile self-esteem that varies depending on their last accomplishment or whom they are able to impress. When they are doing well, they feel great and even superior to others, whereas when they encounter setbacks, they tend to feel shame and self-doubt. This results in anxiety and vigilance around social status and performance. They have to keep comparing themselves to others to make sure they are measuring up and haven't fallen behind (Greenberg, 2011).

What made them?

Greenberg continued that these types have a survival mentality and may be jealous and controlling. The basis for this is often a deep insecurity about having their emotional needs met. They may have had parents who were critical, played favorites, or were unavailable or inattentive to their emotional needs.

Some competitive people may be pathologically narcissistic and self-centered, not seeing you as a separate human being, but more as a reflection or extension of themselves, a source of admiration for their accomplishments, a potential threat to their own success, or as an object to use or manipulate in order to meet their own needs or increase their resources.

Generally, people who are competitive about their houses, kids, dinner parties and so on are either insecure or arrogant and want to prove superiority. If they are the insecure type, praising their accomplishments and staying calm and friendly may make them see you as an ally or as less of a threat. If they are arrogant, you may want to speak up and toot your own horn as well or change the subject when they start boasting. Arrogant people tend to be narcissistic and status-conscious, so if you exude confidence and appear to have high status and accomplishments, they are more likely to respect you.

But then, these areas of encounters could be wearisome. We are free to choose whom to affiliate with. We could not concede to their illnesses all the time and consider our own space as well. We are not obliged to praise them and tell them things to widen their ego. We have our own lives to live we could let them live their own pathetic ways.

Yet, we have our social responsibilities as well. We nurture children for them to grow loved and respected. We displace care and affection to create wider areas of positive energies. We revisit our personalities for us to monitor and evaluate our inner battles and heal the wounded child within.

But if we can’t; if we continue to compete in an unhealthy manner, we must endure the brand of being UNSTABLE. “Way gajod makalupos kay...(silently circles the forefinger on the side of the head)”