Egocentric

 

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Sija da pirme.

There are long discourses on why people can be selfish most of the time. The selfishness manifests when others’ feelings, well-being and circumstances are NOT considered.

Selfishness is a situated desire to act in a way that benefits oneself and violates a prevailing social expectation, such that it disregards the desires of others in the situation.

According to Thomas Hobbes, human nature is inherently selfish and driven by a desire for power. Before civilization, Hobbes said, this selfishness led to anarchy: Each person sought power for themselves, creating an all-out war.

But with the advent of cognition and self-awareness leading Maslow’s theorized actualization, people tend to transcend selfishness. So, what then hampers its attainment?

Self-actualization is the process of becoming. The process is about becoming who you are in terms of self-awareness, fulfillment, appreciation, and satisfaction. Self-actualizers have a high degree of social consciousness. They have concern for the welfare of humankind.

As human beings, it can be challenging to step outside of ourselves with a sense of self-awareness. But when we consider this concept of self-actualization, it's important to understand we need clarity in how we see ourselves and our human potential (Lyons, 2021).

Therefore, it is safe to say that selfish and self-centered individuals barely reach the level of BEING. Maslow even theorized that for this to happen, DEPRIVATION was experienced by these individuals to behave that way.

The main reason why others are not generous of extending themselves to others is because they still feel that they are LACKING.

Because self-actualization involves a strong sense of purpose and self-awareness as well as the imperative that one's basic needs are met, it can be a challenging goal to reach.

 

The Invasion

 

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What is personal space?

Personal space can be defined as the comfortable distance between you and another person that you are talking to or stood next to. If someone invades your personal space, it means they are too close to you, and they are making you feel uncomfortable.

Personal space is important because it helps people feel safe and comfortable. If someone invades your personal space, one can feel uncomfortable and unwanted (twnkl.com).

Lately, there is a heated discussion on social media when award-winning actress Lea Salonga shooed some fans outside her dressing room.

CNN Philippines reported: In the now-viral video, some fans asked Lea Salonga for a photo from outside her dressing room, claiming they are friends of the co-producer of the show, former actress G Tongi. Salonga said they aren't allowed backstage unless they are on the guest list for "security purposes." She said the fans can wait outside where she will accept their request.

There are those who mentioned about her being a snob. But isn’t it true that it can be alarming when strangers invade your private space?

Personal space is the area, or unspoken boundary, that people feel necessary to set between themselves and others to feel comfortable during interaction.  It is the unwritten rule for distance that people should observe when meeting others to maintain a level of personal and professional comfort. Personal space apart from being an important form of body language, is also a key component of all relationships, and must be respected (Mehta, 2020).

Even if actors are public figures, we still have to understand how to draw the line between respect and being rude by invading others’ personal spaces.

Blasphemous

 

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Hinsobrahan da na binayot!

Controversy stirred by a drag performance that used Catholic Mass song "Ama Namin" and featured a twerking Jesus performed by PURA Luca Vega. The Filipino drag queen sparked heated debates on social media after posting a video of herself singing an Ama Namin remix to a cheering crowd at a bar.

The remix was a punk rock version of the Catholic Mass worship song, and Vega performed this in an outfit that seems to portray Jesus Christ.

Even the LGBTQ community cried foul on the seemingly blasphemous portrayal of the Lord’s Prayer which is revered by Christians especially by the Catholic community.

The drag queen mentioned about freedom of expression and even stood on her footing that there is nothing wrong with what she did. But isn’t there a line drawn on the so-called “freedom”? What if your expression brings distress, insult and psychological disturbance to the majority?

"In my opinion, this is the height of the misuse and abuse of our freedom of expression that borders on criminal activity," Senate President Juan Miguel Zubiri said Thursday reported by Philippine Star.

There is nothing wrong with being gay and drag is an expression already accepted by the masses. But the universal value of respect must be practiced by everyone who is straight, gay or whatever gender one identifies with.

Most of the time, the need to fuel up a controversy has a psychological implication. Persons who perform taboo might have issues on self-knowledge and awareness.

Who would have known this Luka if she did not perform such infamy anyway?

Alienation

 

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Kalaong nija kun dako an ranggo, dako na sab sija na tawo!

It has been said that you are not your position. But there are those who are drunk with it to the point that they feel invincible. They see others as if they are mere pawns in the game.

Arthur C. Brooks in an article titled “A Profession Is Not a Personality” said: Reducing yourself to any single characteristic, whether it be your title or your job performance, is a deeply damaging act.

Your career or job should be an extension of you, not vice versa. You are human– a father, mother, friend, brother, sister or a parishioner. You are a mother of two who is a CEO… not just a manager or something else.

Trapped in an energetic field that feeds on itself to create the aura they dwell within, powerful persons are bound to get drunk on their own sense of importance (Nangia, 2011).

You will see these persons around. They claim that they deserve the respect and accolade brought about by their positions because they worked hard to attain their jobs. This may sound correct but the idea of being reduced to the “position” is not ideal. You are human with being first prior to becoming an engineer, actress, doctor or anything else.

Workism is the belief that employment is not only necessary for economic production but is also the centerpiece of one's identity and life purpose. This was coined by American journalist Derek Thompson, in 2019.

Getting drunk with the position you have can lead to your own alienation. People will also objectify you as your work. By the time you retire or lose your job, they cannot see your worth. You yourself allowed it to happen during your peak moments.