Ennui

 

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Haw-ang.

“Ambition and position without service is like a container with holes,” asserted the bishop of Tandag Most Rev. Raul B. Dael, DD. ““No matter how much you fill it—be it wealth, influence, or accolades—you will always feel emptiness.”

Ambition without a sense of service can often feel hollow, as research suggests that personal success devoid of meaningful connection to others leads to a lack of fulfillment. A study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that individuals who prioritize communal goals experience greater life satisfaction compared to those focused solely on personal achievement.

Similarly, a report from the American Psychological Association indicates that self-centered ambition can contribute to feelings of loneliness and emptiness. When people pursue goals solely for their own gain, they may overlook the intrinsic rewards of helping others, resulting in a sense of isolation and disconnection.

This is a key reason why individuals lacking self-awareness often experience dull or monotonous episodes in their lives. In an effort to escape this ennui, they may resort to projection and actively seek out conflict, believing that these dramatic interactions will validate their existence and give their lives a sense of importance. This constant need for external validation reflects a deeper struggle to connect with themselves, ultimately leading to a cycle of dissatisfaction and unrest.

A study by Glick et al. (2005) published in Psychological Science found that projecting negative traits onto others can distort perceptions and lead to increased hostility and defensiveness, further isolating the individual. These dynamics can result in chronic feelings of loneliness and dissatisfaction.

Many individuals grappling with loneliness stubbornly project their negative emotions onto others, often challenging people on different platforms. Unbeknownst to them, their true adversaries lie within, as they fail to recognize that their struggles stem from unresolved internal conflicts. This misguided expression not only alienates them further but also obscures the opportunity for genuine connection and healing.

Persons who lack the coping skills necessary to address their internal conflicts, further compounding their mental health challenges. Over time, this can lead to a decline in overall well-being and a greater likelihood of experiencing mental health disorders.

By prioritizing self-care and self-reflection, individuals can cultivate greater self-awareness, enabling them to understand their emotions and motivations.

Integrating service into ambition and position is vital for finding true fulfillment and purpose, turning personal success into a force for collective good. Self-awareness is key, enabling individuals to confront their inner struggles instead of projecting negativity onto others. By fostering genuine connections and addressing emotional challenges, we can enhance our mental health and create a more compassionate and supportive community.

 

 

On the Brink of Insanity

 

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Tagpasa an kalabad.

When one does not understand what is going on inside, chances are, the individual projects the negative feelings to others.

The phenomenon is called projection, a psychological defense mechanism. When individuals experience feelings or thoughts they can't fully understand or accept, they may project those feelings onto others. This can manifest as blaming others for their own negative emotions or misinterpreting others' actions as threatening or negative.

Sigmund Freud first introduced the concept of projection as a defense mechanism in his psychoanalytic theory. He suggested that individuals might project their own undesirable feelings or thoughts onto others as a way to cope with anxiety.

This behavior often arises when someone is grappling with internal conflict, insecurity, or unresolved issues. Instead of confronting these feelings directly, they externalize them, attributing their own discomfort to the people around them. This can lead to misunderstandings, strained relationships, and a cycle of negativity that can be difficult to break.

Otto Kernberg (1975) explored how projection functions in personality disorders, particularly in borderline and narcissistic individuals. His work emphasized how these individuals might project their internal conflicts onto others, leading to unstable relationships.

These situations were ignored before but with the current attention to mental health, people are now looking into the reasons of skewed behaviors.

The destigmatization of mental health issues has encouraged individuals to explore the psychological roots of their behaviors. As awareness grows, more people are recognizing that behaviors like projection can stem from unresolved emotional conflicts (Corrigan et al., 2012).

Increasing emotional intelligence can be beneficial. Learning to identify and label emotions accurately allows individuals to understand their feelings better and reduce the tendency to project them onto others.

Otherwise, worsening conditions can arise, leading to a state of turmoil or insanity.

Teaching Loads

 

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Hilabian na pasensya!

Nick Garcia of the Philippine Star reported on September 26, 2024: The Davao de Oro division of the Department of Education (DepEd) is investigating the case of a teacher who died allegedly due to stress after being scolded by the school principal. In a statement on Sept. 22, DepEd-Davao de Oro extended its deepest condolences to the family of Marjorie Espinosa Llanto-Bonto, who taught at Tibagon Elementary School in Panutukan North District.

The scolding allegedly stemmed from the complain of a disgruntled parent when Mrs. Bonto “failed” to give first aid to a learner who encountered an accident while playing with a classmate.

On October 3, 2024, philstar.com reported: Rescuers reportedly found one of the teachers who died in the Thailand school bus fire embracing her student in their final moments. Local newspaper Khaosod English reported that Kanokwan Sripong was among the casualties of the bus carrying six teachers and 39 students in elementary and junior high school.

The bus was traveling from Uthai Thani province, about 300 kilometers (186 miles) north of the capital Bangkok, for a school trip in Ayutthaya and Nonthaburi provinces on Oct. 1 of this year.

These are just some narrative we hear about the lives of the teachers.

Teachers often make profound sacrifices to ensure their students' success, both academically and personally. They frequently invest their own time and resources, often working beyond regular hours to provide additional support and enrichment opportunities (Ingersoll, 2001).

According to a report by the National Education Association (NEA, 2019), many educators spend their own money on classroom supplies, highlighting their commitment to creating a conducive learning environment despite limited funding.

Furthermore, the emotional toll can be significant, as teachers navigate the challenges of diverse classrooms, often prioritizing their students' needs over their own well-being (Blase & Blase, 2006). These sacrifices underscore the dedication and resilience inherent in the teaching profession, which plays a crucial role in shaping the future.

Research by Skaalvik and Skaalvik (2017) emphasizes the importance of reducing workload stressors, suggesting that providing teachers with adequate resources and support can significantly improve their emotional well-being.

Also, professional development opportunities that focus on social-emotional learning can help educators manage stress and connect better with their students, ultimately leading to a more compassionate school culture (Zins & Elias, 2006).

Self-care practices are vital. Studies show that teachers who engage in mindfulness and stress-reduction techniques report lower levels of stress and increased job satisfaction (Roeser et al., 2013). Professional development programs that focus on emotional intelligence and stress management can equip teachers with tools to better handle challenges (Brunetti, 2006).

As we celebrate World Teachers' Day today, it's essential to recognize the need for a collaborative effort among the government, educational administrators, stakeholders, and the teachers themselves. Together, they can create a more enriching and supportive work environment that truly reflects and honors the dedication and hard work teachers invest every day. By fostering open communication, providing necessary resources, and valuing teachers' contributions, we can cultivate a culture of respect and appreciation that empowers educators to thrive in their vital roles.

Otherwise, we risk seeing more troubling narratives emerge in print and across various media platforms.

When Darkness Come

 

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Arang kadugyom pirme an kalibutan.

Affirmation plays a crucial role in childhood development. Young children need to feel valued and appreciated to cultivate a future where their confidence remains intact. Without consistent affirmation, developmental gaps in self-esteem may persist and even intensify as they age.

While some argue that adulthood offers the ability to overcome childhood insecurities, evidence and research suggest otherwise. These unresolved deficits often continue to affect individuals well into adulthood, persisting through old age.

When the desire for affirmation and other unmet needs overwhelm an individual, The Shadow begins to consume their persona, distorting how they present themselves to the world.

Carl Jung's concept of The Shadow(1921)  refers to the unconscious and often repressed aspects of an individual's personality—traits, desires, or behaviors that the person refuses to acknowledge because they are considered undesirable, socially unacceptable, or contrary to one’s self-image.

These aspects remain hidden in the unconscious but can strongly influence thoughts, emotions, and behavior, often manifesting in ways the person may not recognize or control.

This writer is deeply fascinated by Carl Jung’s concept of The Shadow, believing it holds profound significance in shaping an individual's psyche. It is as though this hidden aspect of the self, if left unchecked and nurtured, has the potential to haunt or even overpower the individual, exerting a powerful influence over their thoughts and actions.

While The Shadow cannot be entirely eliminated, it can be integrated and managed through conscious awareness and self-reflection. This process is central to Jung’s concept of individuation, where a person strives to become a more whole and balanced version of themselves by confronting and accepting their Shadow.

Jung emphasized that the goal is not to control or suppress the Shadow, but to integrate it. Suppressing the Shadow can lead to it manifesting in unintended ways, such as through projection or irrational behavior. By acknowledging the darker, hidden parts of oneself, individuals can gain insight into their unconscious motivations and desires, ultimately reducing the Shadow’s unconscious influence.

The Shadow cannot be "controlled" in the traditional sense, but it can be integrated through self-awareness, acceptance, and introspection. By doing so, individuals can harness its potential and prevent it from unconsciously sabotaging their life.

If not, darkness consumes their world.

Avoiding the Straitjacket

 

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Delikado.

Loneliness is dangerous. There are those who are trying to project an image of NOT being lonely yet their actions obviously manifest some sort of disorder.

Many individuals attempt to mask their isolation by projecting an image of confidence, busyness, or even happiness, but beneath the surface, their actions betray a deeper turmoil. These attempts to conceal loneliness often manifest in subtle yet telling ways—whether through erratic behavior, compulsive tendencies, or an overcompensation for emotional disconnection.

The UCLA Loneliness Scale, developed by Russell, Peplau, and Ferguson (1978), is often used to assess the subjective experience of loneliness. It reveals that loneliness, even when individuals have social contact, can lead to feelings of emptiness and disconnection, which are strong predictors of poor mental health outcomes such as anxiety and suicidal ideation.

Some individuals already exhibit these symptoms, displaying sudden erratic behavior, becoming combative without warning, and lashing out at others simply to gain attention.

Studies have shown that erratic behavior and aggression are commonly associated with conditions like borderline personality disorder (BPD), bipolar disorder, or attention-seeking behaviors in personality disorders (Krause-Utz et al., 2018; O’Connell & Myers, 2016).

These conditions often result in impulsivity and mood instability, which can aggravate interpersonal conflicts and worsen an individual's mental health over time.

Health has often been emphasized as a personal responsibility, requiring individuals to engage in regular self-assessment and reflection to gain deeper self-awareness. However, when self-awareness falls short or blind spots emerge, external feedback becomes crucial in identifying areas for improvement and guiding appropriate interventions.

If unattended and denial persists, the cuckoo’s nests await.

Enslaved

 

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Uman pirme man nija tag-isip an ija mga tagbati?

When an individual lacks the ability to manage emotions, they may either become highly reactive when feelings are triggered or fail to grasp the importance of engaging the Thinking Brain in decision-making.

Being emotionally dependent isn't inherently negative, but it can become limiting if it leads to impulsive decisions or a lack of objectivity in critical situations.

Those who haven’t developed strong emotional regulation skills may find it challenging to balance emotions with rational thought. Without the ability to manage or compartmentalize feelings, emotions take control.

The distinction between the Thinking Brain and the Feeling Brain highlights two essential aspects of human cognition: rationality and emotion. The Thinking Brain, often associated with the prefrontal cortex, is responsible for logical reasoning, problem-solving, and long-term planning. It processes information analytically, enabling individuals to make decisions based on facts and evidence rather than immediate emotional responses (Damasio, 1994).

On the other hand, the Feeling Brain, linked to the limbic system, especially the amygdala, governs emotional responses and instincts. It often reacts quickly, driven by desires and fears, without considering long-term consequences (LeDoux, 2000).

While both systems have their unique roles, a balance between the two is crucial for sound decision-making, as over-reliance on either can lead to undesirable outcomes. Excessive rationality might result in emotional detachment, while emotional dominance can lead to impulsive actions (Kahneman, 2011).

Both parts of the brain play essential roles, but many of our life's struggles arise from the Feeling Brain's dominance. We are inherently emotional creatures, and the Feeling Brain is the driver behind most of our decisions, while the Thinking Brain often tries to rationalize or justify those emotions afterward.

While we can't eliminate the influence of the Feeling Brain, we can learn to guide it by developing greater self-awareness and setting values that align with our goals.

People need to acknowledge the power of emotions but not be enslaved by them.

There will always be conflicts among our daily interactions when everything is governed by what we feel. Most of the time, we have to be objective in dealing with the things we are facing.

Otherwise, we will find ourselves perpetually burdened with feelings of discouragement and exhaustion.

Avoiding Dementia

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Hawoy mag-isip!

FullyBooked once displayed a sign that read: "The presence of bookstores proves that people are still thinking." The sign is gone now, perhaps removed for the subtle critique it posed to those who seldom visit.

What was intended to celebrate intellectual engagement might have highlighted an uncomfortable truth: it shows the fine line between inspiring people and making those who prefer other activities feel left out.

Currently, there is a significant challenge with reading among learners. Many struggle to progress to comprehension, hindering cognitive development. Also, parental encouragement of a love for reading is lacking, resulting in a diminished capacity for deeper intellectual engagement in children.

Adults are often captivated by the immediate entertainment offered by social media, frequently bypassing posts that promote deep thinking.

Social media provides immediate rewards such as likes, comments, and shares. This instant feedback is highly stimulating and reinforces continued use. A study by Alter (2017) discusses how digital platforms are designed to exploit our desire for instant gratification and dopamine-driven rewards, making them more appealing than the delayed gratification of reading a book.

The preference for social media over traditional reading among adults is driven by factors such as instant gratification, decreased attention spans, convenience, social connectivity, visual stimulation, perceived relevance, and lower cognitive effort.

Preferring low-effort activities often means engaging in tasks that do not challenge the brain or stimulate critical thinking. This can lead to decreased cognitive engagement and lower mental stimulation.

Over time, this can result in diminished cognitive skills such as problem-solving, critical thinking, and memory retention. A study by K. A. Erickson and colleagues (2010) found that mental stimulation and challenging cognitive activities are essential for maintaining cognitive health.

A study published in The New England Journal of Medicine (2019) by Stern et al. found that individuals who engage in activities that stimulate the brain, such as reading, problem-solving, and learning, have a lower risk of developing dementia.

The study emphasizes that cognitive reserve, built through mental stimulation, can protect against the onset of dementia.

If unattended and not given focus, the degeneration of the brain can be terrifying since you will even forget who you are.

Commonplace

 

 

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Makiuso pirme.

What is it about trends that makes them so pervasive? Are they not similar to an epidemic, spreading rapidly through society? Why are people so irresistibly drawn to whatever is considered "in"?

People get into trends due to a mix of psychological factors, including the desire for social acceptance and belonging, fear of missing out (FOMO), and the bandwagon effect, where they follow others to feel included.

Trends also offer a way to express and explore identity, while cognitive biases like novelty-seeking and the influence of media amplify their appeal. Additionally, trends provide psychological comfort by reducing decision-making stress and aligning individuals with cultural norms, making it easier to fit in and feel secure in a social context.

Younger individuals are prone to joining such trends because they are still on the age of looking for their individual identities. But there are also adults who still want to be authentic and relevant.

Research by Cialdini and Goldstein (2004) on social influence shows that excessive conformity can diminish personal autonomy and self-expression, which are crucial for psychological well-being.

When people follow trends without questioning, it can reduce critical thinking and lead to a passive acceptance of information. A study by Kahneman (2011) on cognitive biases shows how the availability heuristic, where people rely on readily available information (often trends), can lead to flawed decision-making by bypassing deeper analysis.

To avoid being swept up by trends, one should cultivate self-awareness and critical thinking. It's important to reflect on whether a trend aligns with personal values or if it's driven by a desire for social approval.

If unguarded, this can lead to a sense of disconnection from one's authentic self, impulsive choices that may have negative consequences, and a constant chase for external validation. Over time, this can result in a lack of fulfilment and a diminished sense of self-worth, as one's identity becomes increasingly shaped by external influences rather than personal convictions.

In Malcolm Gladwell's “The Tipping Point”, he explores how small changes and social dynamics can lead to widespread adoption of trends. According to Gladwell, when individuals follow trends merely to gain acceptance, they often contribute to a collective shift that might ultimately lead to a superficial or banal version of selfhood.

A nondescript identity muddles the mind of the attention-hungry. Then, the mental well-being will then be affected.

Objects

 

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Jaoy pa gihapon mga macho… Mahamok

Jean Mangaluz of the philstar.com reported on August 15, 2024: Former "bad boy" turned Sen. Robinhood Padilla questioned if there was anything a husband could do to compel his wife to have sex with him even if she does not want to, leading to a lesson on consent.

The senator who led the senate poll then was addressed by feminist lawyer Atty. Lorna Capunan who made it clear: No means No, even in the context of marriage between a wife and a husband.

“Paano ako?” the bad boy of Philippine cinema then gesticulated.

Consent is a fundamental human right that must be upheld in all relationships, including marriage. The notion that a spouse could be coerced into sexual activity is deeply troubling and reflective of outdated and harmful attitudes towards marriage and gender roles.

Senator Padilla's remarks present an opportunity to reinforce the importance of educating society on the principles of consent. This includes understanding that consent must be freely given, enthusiastic, and revocable at any time. It is crucial for lawmakers, public figures, and educators to champion these principles, ensuring that everyone—regardless of gender—understands and respects the boundaries that protect individual rights within all relationships.

Morrison Torrey (1991) explores the legal and social implications of marital rape and the importance of consent in marital relationships. His study provides a comprehensive analysis of how the law has evolved to recognize that marriage does not nullify an individual's right to bodily autonomy.

Legally, marital rape is recognized as a crime in many jurisdictions, including the Philippines. The notion that a spouse has an inherent right to sex without the other’s consent is not only outdated but also legally indefensible. If Senator Padilla is unaware of these legal protections, it might reflect ignorance of the law, particularly in areas related to gender and human rights.

Worse, if Senator Padilla lacks this knowledge, it is a serious issue that could undermine his effectiveness as a legislator and his ability to represent his constituents fairly and justly.

Paano tayo?

Digital Chains

 

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Dali dakan ayahan. Gusto lingaw pirme…

The idle television in the living room stands as a poignant symbol of a bygone era when families would gather to watch their favorite soap operas together. Today, the scene is vastly different, with most people hunched over their smartphones, endlessly scrolling through a barrage of images and videos, lost in the digital maze.

The rise of mobile phones has shifted entertainment to the small screens in our hands, making the internet the lifeblood of modern existence. For many, especially those on the edge of poverty, the lure of connectivity is so powerful that they would forgo basic needs, like food, in exchange for data to stay online.

This shift in behavior is not just a matter of convenience but has deep social and psychological implications. A study by Fuchs (2020), titled "Digital Divides and the Internet: A Review of the Literature and a Study on the Global Internet Usage Gap," explores the phenomenon of mobile phone dependence, particularly among lower-income populations.

Fuchs highlights that mobile phones have become a crucial tool for accessing entertainment and information, especially in developing regions where traditional media consumption is declining. The study discusses how the internet has become essential for social inclusion, with connectivity seen as a necessity rather than a luxury, even leading to sacrifices in other areas of life, such as food and healthcare, to maintain online access.

This increased internet usage is closely linked to a decline in physical activities, particularly among adults, contributing to sedentary lifestyles and associated health risks. Internet addiction, driven by psychological factors like emotional regulation, social needs, and underlying mental health conditions, further exacerbates this trend. Research by Kim et al. (2009) found that loneliness and a lack of social support are significant predictors of internet addiction, as the internet offers a sense of community and connection that may be missing in real life.

The conveniences of modern technology have come at a cost, gradually eroding our health as we trade movement for the sedentary comforts of screen time. Returning to an active lifestyle is not just about fitness; it is about reconnecting with our natural rhythms, fostering real-world relationships, and nurturing a sense of presence in our own lives.

Stepping away from screens and embracing physical activity is a profound gesture of self-care, essential for restoring balance in a digitally dominated world.

Mirrors

 

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Mag pila sa una kun magsalida an kan Fernando Poe sine…

Is Filipino cinema on the brink of extinction? This question arises frequently, particularly in the face of the overwhelming influx of superhero films with cutting-edge special effects and the growing preference for K-dramas among the younger generation.

During the 40th Luna Awards, Jose Javier Reyes delivered a speech emphasizing the evolution and future of Filipino cinema. He stressed the importance of ensuring that Philippine cinema retains its distinct Filipino identity while also being understood and appreciated on a global scale.

According to a study by Turner (2019), cinema serves as a "cultural repository" that maintains a nation's cultural memory, particularly in the face of globalization, which often leads to the dominance of foreign cultures in local markets.

Roderick Paulate (who won Best Actor for the film “In His Mother’s Eyes) nostalgically recalled the vibrant gatherings of local artists during the Film Academy of the Philippines (FAP) events as he delivered his speech at the Luna Awards. He vividly described the camaraderie and the shared passion for Filipino cinema that once brought together the industry's finest talents.

Paulate reminisced about the sense of community that these gatherings fostered, where artists, directors, and industry professionals exchanged ideas and celebrated their collective achievements. His reflection highlighted the significance of these moments in shaping the local film industry and the deep connections that were forged during those times.

Recently, the esteemed matriarch of Regal Films, Lily Monteverde, passed away, leaving behind a profound legacy in the world of Philippine cinema. During the 1980s, she was instrumental in producing an array of high-caliber films that garnered critical acclaim and poignantly captured the essence of Filipino culture. Among her most notable contributions is the "Mano Po" franchise, which offered an intimate exploration of the lives and challenges of Filipino-Chinese families, shedding light on their significant influence within the broader societal landscape.

Gerbner and Gross's(1976) research is part of the Cultivation Theory, which posits that long-term exposure to media content, including films, can shape an individual's perceptions of reality and societal norms.

In the context of Filipino cinema, films that authentically depict the country's unique cultural heritage and social experiences help anchor the nation's identity, ensuring that, even amidst globalization, the core essence of being Filipino remains vibrant and resilient.

Let the spirit and culture of Filipinos continue to thrive through different media.

Uncontextualized

 

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Mikallit pagka-abtik.

Occasionally, individuals may exhibit a sudden shift towards becoming more opinionated. This phenomenon prompts the inquiry: Is there an emerging source of confidence underlying this change?

Without a grounding in context, ideas can lead to misinterpretations, flawed decisions, and potentially harmful outcomes.

Individuals who give opinions and ideas without considering the context, concepts can be significantly impaired, leading to less optimal or even harmful choices. Morrow and Bowers (2007) argue that context provides essential information that shapes how ideas and decisions are framed.

Then, there are juxtapositions without clear context.

Juxtapositions—placing two or more elements side by side for comparison—can be powerful tools for analysis and insight. However, when used without clear context, they can lead to misunderstandings, misinterpretations, and erroneous conclusions.

It is a discourse in fallacy when one compares the sun and the moon.

Comparing the sun’s heat to the moon’s coldness without recognizing that the moon doesn’t emit its own heat but reflects the sun’s light can lead to misleading conclusions about their relative temperatures.

In philosophy, a category mistake occurs when items from different context are compared inappropriately. This concept is discussed in works such as "Philosophical Investigations" by Ludwig Wittgenstein (1953), which explores how incorrect comparisons arise from misunderstandings of the categories involved.

Comparing two different cultures and systems can result in a false equivalence if their fundamentally different properties are ignored.

The concept of false equivalence is explored in critical thinking and logical fallacies literature. For instance, "The Art of Thinking Clearly" by Rolf Dobelli (2013) discusses how false equivalences can mislead reasoning and decision-making.

Using analogies to compare two different systems without proper context can lead to misleading conclusions. Analogies are useful for illustrating similarities but can be misleading if the differences are crucial to the comparison.

In "The Nature of Scientific Thinking" by Howard E. Gruber (1981), the use of analogies in scientific reasoning is examined, highlighting how analogies can clarify concepts but also mislead if not applied with attention to relevant differences.

Comparing two systems without considering their different contexts can lead to misrepresentation of their significance and function.

The importance of context in understanding and interpreting information is discussed in "Thinking, Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman (2011), which explores how context shapes our perception and reasoning.

Ergo, airing unfounded opinions may feign confidence but it takes a lot of processes and scientific thinking before becoming profound idea-generators.

 

 

 

This Hunger Inside You

 

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Panan-aw nan iban hakad, garaon para mapansin nan mga halangdon, pero…

We often encounter individuals who consistently strive to be at the forefront, sometimes resorting to manipulative tactics to achieve their objectives. These people might engineer situations to ensure they remain in prominent positions, driven by a need for recognition and control.

Validation is a fundamental aspect of human psychology. This need influences behavior, shapes self-perception, and affects interpersonal relationships.

Abraham Maslow's hierarchy of needs places the need for esteem and belongingness as essential for psychological well-being. Validation and approval from others fulfill these esteem needs, contributing to a sense of achievement and recognition (Maslow, 1943).

What drives some individuals to seek recognition so intensely that it becomes obvious but appears natural to them?

Research based on John Bowlby’s attachment theory suggests that early attachment experiences with caregivers shape the need for approval and validation in adulthood. Insecure attachment may result in heightened dependency on external approval to feel valued (Ainsworth et al., 1978).

This is where the danger lies: when a person does not realize that intrinsic validation is more valuable than extrinsic validation, they may continually take on roles and responsibilities beyond their capacity. This relentless pursuit of external approval can lead to burnout and undermine their well-being.

Leon Festinger’s Social Comparison Theory (1954) suggests that individuals evaluate their own worth and abilities by comparing themselves to others. Accepting roles and responsibilities can be a way to elevate one’s status in comparison to peers. This comparison can provide a sense of achievement and validation, reinforcing self-worth.

But, relying heavily on external validation can make individuals vulnerable to fluctuations in others' opinions and approval. This dependency can undermine intrinsic motivation and self-worth.

Focusing on extrinsic validation makes individuals dependent on external factors beyond their control. This can lead to a fragile sense of self-worth that fluctuates with others' opinions and feedback.

Developing self-awareness helps individuals recognize when they are overly reliant on extrinsic validation and shift their focus towards internal sources of affirmation.

Intrinsic validation is vital for fostering genuine self-esteem, resilience, and long-term well-being. The opposite drives the cuckoos in you.

Psychological Roots and Effects of Copycats

 

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Hawoy mag-isip nan imo kaugalingon na mga ideya?

Oftentimes, people will get offended when their ideas, concepts and even creations are being claimed by others as their own.

There are individuals who struggle to generate their own innovative thoughts and seek shortcuts to gain recognition or success without putting in the requisite effort.

The pressure to succeed and the desire for quick success can also lead to copycat behavior. Hennessey and Amabile (2010) theorized how external pressures can stifle genuine creative efforts, as individuals focus more on the outcomes rather than the process.

This results in intellectual stagnation, where the reliance on others' ideas inhibits the development of critical thinking and problem-solving skills. Sternberg and Lubart's (1991) investment theory of creativity further supports this, explaining that creativity requires sustained effort and investment, which copycats typically avoid.

There are individuals naturally endowed with creative talents, effortlessly generating innovative ideas. Equally commendable are those driven by intrinsic motivation, who diligently hone their skills in the creative field, investing substantial time and effort to achieve their goals. In stark contrast, those who resort to shortcuts represent a troubling phenomenon, as they unjustly claim the fruits of others' labor, undermining the true essence of creativity and the integrity of intellectual effort.

These individuals not only diminish the value of authentic creative work but also erode trust within creative communities, highlighting the need for a culture that prioritizes originality and genuine effort over mere recognition.

Gino and Ariely (2012) explore the darker aspects of creativity, revealing that individuals might engage in dishonest behavior, such as plagiarism, to appear creative.

The phenomenon of copying others is deeply rooted in psychological factors such as insecurity, lack of intrinsic motivation, low self-efficacy, and the pressure to succeed.

Understanding these underpinnings can help in developing strategies to foster a culture of originality and ethical behavior.

Ultimately, people can discern between those who are authentic and those who are not.

Excuse me, Sir!

 

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Di siguro kun sir…Yots!

Claudine Flores of Sunstar reported on July 22, 2024: A “MISGENDERING” incident made rounds on social media after a customer, a member of the LGBTQ community, made a male restaurant wait staff adopt a “parade rest” stance for almost two hours for addressing him as “sir.” The customer was identified by a netizen as the local Cebu personality Jude Bacalso, a writer, former TV personality and host in Cebu.

People went berserk on social media sites as they bash the culprit for his inhumane treatment to the waiter.

Bacalso said that “she” is just educating the person who misgendered her on the issue of gender issues and equality. Yet, even members of the LGBTQ community raised their voices in protest for a seemingly punitive action given to the food server.

He seemed to weaponize his advocacy.

Weaponizing an advocacy involves manipulating a cause or movement to serve ulterior motives, often at the expense of the original intention. This process can distort the advocacy's purpose, turning it into a tool for personal or social gain (Joyce, 2019; Meyer, 2020).

The consensus among netizens was that the behavior in question was predominantly characterized by rudeness. Some might argue that while respect for gender identity is crucial, Bacalso's response could be seen as overly punitive. While educating the waiter on the significance of using correct gender pronouns aligns with one's personal convictions, it is inappropriate to extend such lecture over an excessive duration.

Based on Bacalso's persistent use of defense mechanisms, including the posting of past videos where he speaks eloquently to seemingly project an image of intelligence, it can be inferred that he is experiencing cognitive dissonance.

When individuals have a self-image of being superior but are aware of their limitations, they might create a false image of intelligence to reduce the dissonance between their self-perception and reality. Festinger’s (1957) work on cognitive dissonance explores how individuals may alter their beliefs or behavior to align with their self-image.

This incident stands as a sobering reminder of the profound impact of individual actions on communities and the importance of accountability in maintaining societal integrity.

There is an urgent need for ethical behavior to flourish, anchored by a profound inner reflection and rigorous self-examination.

Distorted Perceptions of Skewed Minds

 

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Mandaot para isalbar an kaugalingon bisan sija an sajop!

Some individuals, unable to come to terms with their own failures and downfalls, resort to psychological transference as a coping mechanism. They seek out a scapegoat upon whom they can project their own shortcomings and mistakes. In their desperation to deflect responsibility, they fabricate narratives designed to tarnish the character and reputation of their chosen target, thereby attempting to elevate themselves by diminishing another.

They perform character assassination.

Character assassination is the deliberate and sustained effort to damage the reputation or credibility of an individual. This tactic is often used in politics, media, and personal disputes to undermine a person's influence or power by spreading false information, exaggerating faults, or highlighting mistakes.

Narcissistic individuals, for example, may engage in character assassination to maintain their self-image and superiority, often viewing others as threats to their own status. This can sometimes be misleading since these persons usually only feign good self-image when in fact majority sees them otherwise.

We then can ask: Is there some sort of psychological defect among these people?

This act can indeed be linked to certain psychological traits or defects in individuals who engage in such behavior. People who resort to character assassination often exhibit characteristics associated with narcissistic personality disorder, Machiavellianism, or psychopathy (Jones, Paulhus, 2014).

Sometimes, they may believe they are victorious, unaware that their mental and psychological health is steadily deteriorating.

Individuals who frequently engage in character assassination may face significant social, professional, and psychological consequences. Research suggests that such behavior can lead to social isolation, damaged relationships, and loss of trust and credibility.

Studies also indicate that while these individuals may achieve short-term gains through their manipulative tactics, the long-term effects are largely negative, ultimately undermining their personal and professional well-being (O'Boyle et al., 2012; Hare, 1999).

We remain steadfast in the face of their attacks. In the end, losing sanity is far worse than being the subject of gossip.

 

 

Sloth and Addiction

 

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Poloho…yay nahimo na trabaho!

Recently, discussions have focused on young individuals aspiring to become "working students," yet who exhibit a sense of entitlement by primarily staying at home and sleeping extensively.

Recent studies suggest that the pervasive use of technology has contributed significantly to a rise in laziness among young individuals. According to research conducted by Twenge and Campbell (2018), the increased screen time associated with smartphones, social media, and gaming has led to decreased physical activity and face-to-face social interactions among adolescents.

Furthermore, a study by Przybylski and Weinstein (2017) found that excessive digital media consumption is correlated with poor sleep patterns and reduced academic performance, reinforcing sedentary behavior.

However, this phenomenon is not confined to young individuals; it is also prevalent among adults who are addicted to online activities, spending a significant portion of their time hunched over their smartphones.

According to a study by Andrews, Ellis, Shaw, and Piwek (2015), adults check their phones approximately 85 times per day on average, with many reporting feelings of anxiety when separated from their devices. Additionally, research by Lepp, Barkley, and Karpinski (2015) suggests that excessive smartphone use is linked to decreased physical activity and poorer sleep quality among adults.

These findings are corroborated by a report from the Pew Research Center (2019), which indicates that a significant proportion of adults admit to spending too much time on their phones, often at the expense of face-to-face interactions and productive activities.

The pervasive use of smartphones among adults not only disrupts their daily routines but also contributes to a broader pattern of technology addiction and its associated negative consequences.

When individuals become addicted to technology, they often exhibit compulsive behaviors, experience a decline in productivity, and suffer from increased anxiety.

Ultimately, like money and substances, it is crucial to remember that technology should be a tool we control, rather than allowing it to control us.

Magnifying Mistakes of Others

 

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Mamasawbasaw!

Ever encounter people who automatically look for scapegoats when they commit mistakes? They may blame others, external circumstances, or even the weather. This behavior is often rooted in psychological defense mechanisms.

Defense mechanisms are unconscious psychological strategies employed by individuals to cope with reality and maintain self-image. These mechanisms are well-documented in psychological literature. Freud's (1936) theory of defense mechanisms describes how the ego protects itself from anxiety and unacceptable impulses through various unconscious strategies, including denial and rationalization.

Rationalization involves explaining an unacceptable behavior or feeling in a rational or logical manner, avoiding the true reasons for the behavior. Research by Baumeister et al. (1998) has shown that rationalization helps maintain self-esteem by providing socially acceptable explanations for actions. There are individuals who seek to rationalize their errors. Essentially, they are aware of their wrongdoing or avoidance of responsibilities, yet they excel at constructing plausible justifications for their behavior.

But isn’t this fooling oneself? By rationalizing, individuals can avoid confronting uncomfortable truths about themselves. This self-deception helps them preserve self-esteem and avoid feelings of guilt or shame. For example, someone who fails to get a promotion might rationalize the outcome by blaming external factors rather than acknowledging any personal shortcomings.

This defense mechanism is closely linked to the concept of cognitive dissonance, which is the discomfort experienced when holding two conflicting beliefs or behaviors. To reduce this discomfort, individuals often rationalize their actions to align them with their beliefs. Festinger's (1957) theory of cognitive dissonance provides a framework for understanding how rationalization helps in reducing psychological tension.

Yet, the underlying truth remains unchanged. While we may fully deceive ourselves and others with our rationalizations, there exists a deep, intrinsic awareness of the falsehoods we embellish with superficial justifications.