Wounds

 

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There is a film titled “The Curious Case of Benjamin Button” that captured the attention of many, including Academy Awards jurors. It tells the unusual story of a man who ages in reverse, beginning life as an old man and gradually growing younger. In its final scenes, Benjamin ultimately returns to infancy, ending his journey as a baby.

Some viewers interpret the film by drawing parallels to real life, suggesting that there are people who, instead of growing into maturity, seem to regress into immaturity. It is as though the film reflects how some individuals, regardless of age, remain governed by emotional deficits, eventually slipping into the irrationality and impulsiveness often associated with infancy.

In contemporary terms, Goleman (1995) posits that emotional intelligence, particularly self-regulation, is central to mature behavior, and its absence may lead individuals to act impulsively despite chronological age. This perspective supports the idea that emotional adulthood is not guaranteed by time but earned through inner regulation and unresolved conflict resolved.

We often encounter individuals who appear as giants on the outside, yet carry children trapped within them. More troubling is when these individuals are placed in positions of leadership, where unhealed inner wounds quietly seep into decisions, relationships, and systems. In such roles, harm is not always born of malice, but of overflow—the unconscious need to make others feel the weight they themselves cannot contain alone.

And this is when life becomes complicated and quietly fractured. Instead of moving toward the greater good, organizations begin to weaken as people are slowly consumed by what they carry within. Each one nursing private wounds, they unravel in silence, and in doing so, lose sight of the mission they once swore to serve.

Self-awareness has long been encouraged as a foundation for personal and relational growth. The “child within” must be acknowledged, not to be indulged, but to be understood and healed, so that wholeness may take its place. This process is not an end in itself but a passage toward becoming more capable contributors to the communities we belong to. When development turns inward without a parallel commitment to growth outward, education, skills, and even life itself risk collapsing into self-reference. True growth, therefore, lies in the balance between healing what is broken and building what is possible.

We are not defined by the depth of our wounds, but by the quiet courage to rise from them, and still choose to serve something greater than ourselves.