Desente. Why
the fuss over being cultured? The Urban Dictionary defines this as to have refinement in taste and manners. To
be refined, well-educated or awesome. May apply to manners, dress, language or
lifestyle. Learned in the way of civilized society.
There
are those people in our midst who emits class even if they are not doing
anything. Their presence tells us that they have in them some kind of stuff
which is refined and aligned to the civilized ways. The minute movements and
choice of words allow us to be transported to a world where parental efforts
and “breeding” are employed.
Mayne
(2018) mentions that it is never good to be unkind to anyone, but it is
especially terrible to see adults being insulted intentionally. After all,
these folks have life experiences that one should listen to and learn from.
Remember that being gracious to everyone, regardless of their age, shows your
character.
There
are those in our society whose manners and characters are being hampered by
their inability to function well due to internal miscues and deficits, It has
always been mentioned by psychologists that what comes out of a person is a
reflection of his or her internal balance or imbalance. These information must
be used by the individuals to straighten himself/herself but if it is helpless,
a clinical intervention must be given.
Emily
Post, a famous American writer on etiquette, explained that etiquette is
something that can be developed by all, regardless of one’s background or
socio-economic status. Etiquette, she wrote, involves both ethics and good
manners. Her writings pay a great deal of attention to the importance of considering
the well-being of others.
According
to Ashley Marie (2018), those who display poor manners have poor mental health.
Unfortunately, our lack of social graces can negatively affect the welfare of
others. When we are rude, short, or temperamental with others, we do not
consider how our actions affect those around us. Our gradual loss of social graces
has the potential to harm others, sometimes encouraging or reinforcing the
development of social anxiety. Bad manners and bad behavior are inexcusable and
can have a lasting impact on society.
Aside
from the technological distractions, it is saddening that the academe is being
hounded by ill-manners. In the basic education sector, a clamor to make Good Manners
and Right Conduct (GMRC) to have a comeback is so strong. This is being
manifest by the bad manners the young displays. But then, who created the “world”
of the young? It is we, the adults. They simply fit in to the spaces we provide
for them.
Another
potent question to ask is: What if the parents and the teachers are the ones to
emit bad manners and skewed culture?
That
is why mental health is really a consideration. This writer is really bothered
by the thought that people see mental issues as purely linked to depression.
There are other major mental health issues like narcissism, power-grabbing,
paranoia and other stuff which cause a lot of troubles in organizations.
Rudeness
was reported as the chief cause of stress in a recent poll in France. For 60
percent of the French, it is not the debt crisis or persistent double-digit
unemployment that stresses them out, but the behavior of other people (Zak,
2012).
An
extraordinary triumph of the human species is our ability to extract value from
all kinds of relationships with all kinds of people. One never knows when the
server at the cafe you frequent might become a neighbor, or romantic partner,
or work colleague, or perhaps a friend. Maintaining good relationships with a
large number of people broadens our ability to find opportunities to profit
from relationships.
But
being NOT NICE and improper might lead to a misfortune. What if the one you are
being rude at is more mentally-ill than you? He or she might snap and plan for
your destruction. In the dark areas and deserted places might await your
disaster.
You
don’t have to volunteer on a consistent basis or give money to the homeless to
be considered a decent human being. You don’t even need to be kind to people
all of the time. You just need to be considerate. Somewhat thoughtful. If your
goal is to be a slightly better version of yourself with the least amount of
effort, be decent (Wahl, 2017).
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