Your Efforts, Not Theirs

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Dili lamang maghilabot sa paigo nan iban! We work for our families. We extend ourselves and create efforts to make our small and big communities better. We keep busy to make productive outputs. Sometimes we fail. Yet, if we strive hard, we often succeed. Those who do not strive hard and on the verge of failure oftentimes pull us down. They feel better when they reduce you to their level.

The need to feel superior to others is a major cause for people who put others down. Psychology says those who feel this need humiliate people to knock them down. By making another person feel small, a person who bullies feels bigger. They may feel superior in that they can assert their dominance over another person. It could also make them feel strong or powerful to beat another person down. This need comes from a lack of stability regarding this person's self-worth, and the bullying is simply a defense mechanism they have developed to shield themselves (Dean, 2020).

When someone puts you down there is often a motive or reason behind it or an aim that the person wants to achieve that will ultimately make them feel better. They will resort to demeaning comments, ignoring the other person or their efforts or passing rude and passive aggressive comments. Hence they make the other person feel less important, put down or upset and this gives them happiness or joy.

In reality, they are the ones who are feeling small. It is not our mistake if they envy the things that we have. If they have some mental disorders of feeling inadequate and they project these inadequacies to us, that is their problem. We cannot do anything about their mental wellness since health is a personal responsibility.

One of the reasons why someone would put somebody down is because of the low self-esteem they have. They are unable to improve their own self esteem by making an effort or working hard mentally and physically to feel better about themselves hence they resort to an easier method. And this is a result of poor parenting during their childhood (optimisticminds.com).

So, why be affected with these people with mental issues who pull us down? We need to continue thriving without minding the impact of their parents’ poor nurturing to them and affect us. Let them wallow in their distress and allow them to continue living the dark world they created.

For the rest of us, let us continue doing things aligned to the common good. It is free to dream and working for them is our choice. If others opt to waste their time by letting opportunities pass (or allowing their fickle mindedness to be developed), let them be. We work. We perform.

Poor mental health manifests because of NOT understanding the outcomes brought about by childhood deficits and poor self-esteem. If they will get crazy pulling us down, that is their business!

For us, let us monitor or mental well-being by monitoring our own movements…NOT others.