Bootan da kun jaoy kaatubang…. It’s a sad fact that there are
people who seem to be nice in front of you but hurls all the judgment to you
when you are not around. These persons exist in our society and most of them cause
some chaos in their lifetime – minor or major.
Gossiping shows the basic nature
of human beings. We have a tendency to look into others’ lives. If it is
others’ downfall people are happier! Even the trendiest social website Facebook
is climbing success with the same strategy. Most of us will have a natural
curiosity about what is going on with others.
Persons who thrive on backbiting
are either psychologically disturbed or innately envious. They cannot fill in
their inadequacies they start looking for others’ mistakes instead. Their
existence will become meaningful when they can talk bad about someone! How
unhealthy that could be!
When people feel bad about
themselves, they sometimes will target other people to try to make themselves
feel better. As a result, they talk about others as a way to deflect attention
from themselves. When people are at the top of the social ladder or are
determined to climb higher, they sometimes accomplish that by diminishing the
status of another person (Gordon, 2020).
Still we need to understand that what we have done
good will be the ones that count: not the mistakes, the hitches in one’s journey. That is
why we have to consider nurturing each other rather inflicting pain. A person’s
legacy must be the efforts he/she exerted on empowering others and helping them
to become better individuals and NOT destroying them.
Biologically and socially toxic
conditions interfere with successful development. They influence development of
the affective/cognitive factors that mediate behavior (Flay et al., 2009) and
can undermine the development of social bonds with others and counter the
development of pro-social norms and skills (Flay et al., 2009).
Life is difficult these days. Let
us not add toxic things around to ease the fear, anxiety and feeling bad due to
our own inadequacies. Let us concentrate on how to BUILD than to DESTROY. Life
is short you might NOT have the chance to become a good person.
In the end, you will only become
a memory.
The question is: How will you be
remembered by others?
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