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Ajaw paghakopa tanan, manlusot an iban… The universe seems to consider equity. Some of us want more just to have them all. There is this insatiable need to have all the things we desire. Yet, life teaches us that we can’t have everything. Blessings are equitable to all.
The innate human
desire to seek means that we can never truly feel that every desire and wish
has been met. There will never be an end to the to-do list, future goals and
plans, the things we want to achieve and see. But the fact that we don’t have
everything we want is exactly what makes life so fulfilling (Goldhill, 2016).
If we have
everything at this moment, what is the motivation to go on? You see, there is
always this challenge for us to pursue something. We should NOT have everything
to continue pursuing the things that we dream of. And if others have reached
theirs, there will always be a time for us to do so.
Whether we’re
striving for a new job, more meaningful relationships, or personal
enlightenment, we need to actively want something more in order to live well.
In fact, neuroscience shows that the act of seeking itself, rather than the
goals we realize, is key to satisfaction.
So, there is no
need to hurry. We can enjoy the small victories that we have right now and plan
for other victories to pursue. There is always that thrill of seeking for the
fulfillment of our goals. But, once we are impatient and will compare ourselves
to others, we will become unhappy.
You can never
make other’s life be yours. You have your own life patterns to create.
When we compare
ourselves to others, we’re often comparing their best features against our
average ones. It’s like being right-handed and trying to play an instrument
with your left hand. Not only do we naturally want to be better than them, the
unconscious realization that we are not often becomes self-destructive.
Comparisons
between people are a recipe for unhappiness. Let us accept our own lives. We
are unique. And, something good will happen to us sooner or later. Let us just
focus on the things which we can control.