Wait for Your Turn

 

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Ajaw paghakopa tanan, manlusot an iban… The universe seems to consider equity. Some of us want more just to have them all. There is this insatiable need to have all the things we desire. Yet, life teaches us that we can’t have everything. Blessings are equitable to all.

The innate human desire to seek means that we can never truly feel that every desire and wish has been met. There will never be an end to the to-do list, future goals and plans, the things we want to achieve and see. But the fact that we don’t have everything we want is exactly what makes life so fulfilling (Goldhill, 2016).

If we have everything at this moment, what is the motivation to go on? You see, there is always this challenge for us to pursue something. We should NOT have everything to continue pursuing the things that we dream of. And if others have reached theirs, there will always be a time for us to do so.

Whether we’re striving for a new job, more meaningful relationships, or personal enlightenment, we need to actively want something more in order to live well. In fact, neuroscience shows that the act of seeking itself, rather than the goals we realize, is key to satisfaction.

So, there is no need to hurry. We can enjoy the small victories that we have right now and plan for other victories to pursue. There is always that thrill of seeking for the fulfillment of our goals. But, once we are impatient and will compare ourselves to others, we will become unhappy.

You can never make other’s life be yours. You have your own life patterns to create.

When we compare ourselves to others, we’re often comparing their best features against our average ones. It’s like being right-handed and trying to play an instrument with your left hand. Not only do we naturally want to be better than them, the unconscious realization that we are not often becomes self-destructive.

Comparisons between people are a recipe for unhappiness. Let us accept our own lives. We are unique. And, something good will happen to us sooner or later. Let us just focus on the things which we can control.

Just be patient.