Lord, salamat sa buhangin. I
was struck with a myriad of thoughts as I overheard a child playing on the very
fine white sand of a sandbar. She was a daughter of a teacher who was with me
during that trip. At her age, she understands how to be grateful.
There
are those whom I know who complain a lot. They curse on the weather causing
them headaches. They rant on the damage the rains do to their clothes and they basically complain on everything.
Complaining
is simply expressing dissatisfaction. This usually happens verbally. One may be
the “locus of control,” or how much control a person feels she has in a
situation. There may be other personal factors involved as well, such as
tolerance for conflict, age, and the desire to present one’s self positively
(Biswas-Diener, 2017).
Research
shows that chronic complaining has physiological effects. Through the
repetition of bad, sad, mad and powerless feelings, the neurotransmitters in
the brain can go through a neural “rewiring,” which reinforces negative thought
patterns, making it easier for unhappy thoughts to repeat themselves and
leaving little room for the more positive feelings of gratitude, appreciation,
and well-being.
The
opposite of complaining is simply gratitude and appreciation.
Gratitude
is a way for people to appreciate what they have instead of always reaching for
something new in the hopes it will make them happier or thinking they can't
feel satisfied until every physical and material need is met. Gratitude helps
people refocus on what they have instead of what they lack.
Gratitude
activates dopamine in the brain and creates the conditions for optimism.
Therefore,
those who complain a lot end up being unhappy.
Stay
away from people who are always dwelling on the negative side. Most of them are
unsuccessful. You might be infected by their darkness.
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