Mirrors

 

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Panhibay-anan nila, amo da sab sin-o! There are people who judge you through the things they see and hear about you. But they do not know where you come from. They are unaware of your value systems and most of the time, they are so busy looking for the mistakes of others they forget to look into their own weaknesses.

"How easy it is to criticize others," Pope Francis said. "There are some people who seem to have a degree in tattling, criticizing others every day. Hey, look in the mirror" and reflect on one's own weaknesses and fragility.

Some common synonyms of faultfinding are captious, carping, censorious, critical, and hypercritical. While all these words mean "inclined to look for and point out faults and defects," faultfinding implies a querulous or exacting temperament. a faultfinding reviewer.

Yet, Psychology is telling us that these people are actually projecting their faults to others so they won’t have the time looking into their pathetic selves. They like to look for other’s flaws since they know deep inside that they are also flawed and have errors of their own.

The self-righteous and smug thoughts that can provide a fleeting emotional boost, don’t lead to happiness.

According to Watson (2021): In essence we become intolerant of the weaknesses of others, in turn distorting the way we may view our own faults. From time to time I think we can all be a little prone to look at the weaknesses, limitations and failings of others.

The world is vast. We can change it through the spaces IN us. We have to start changing our own ways so to create a ripple of goodness to the greater space around us.

For those who constantly peer into others’ lives, let us gift them with mirrors. Better, let us surround them with everything that gives them clear reflections of themselves.

Expand Your Horizons

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Di kun hilabian da ad-on na gugma? Have you thought about the fearsome message brought by the song which goes: I can’t live without you? Isn’t it too much to surrender your happiness to another person?

Self-reliance, in its most basic form, is having the skills required and confidence in your ability to meet your needs without dependence on others (Jenkins, 2020).

Our emotions (like attraction to the opposite or similar sex) is within the boundaries of our control. This is what Covey mentions as something within our sphere of influence. We cannot control the feeling of others towards us, but we can control our reactions and actions towards how others deal with us.

Emotions might be harmful when they are excessive. Emotional excess is harmful for the same reasons that other kinds of excess are harmful. As in other emotions, excessiveness in love can impede the lover from seeing a broader perspective. Even normal cases of romantic love tend to create a narrow temporal perspective that focuses on the beloved and is often oblivious to other considerations (Ben-Zeev, 2009).

There are those people who limit themselves with their significant others as their sole companion. They cannot expand their view of the world since their exposure is limited to their created small circle. Others cannot even go out to have adventures and travels since they are being restricted by their lovers!

Spending your time giving too much love to someone else might cause you to neglect yourself. If all of your energy is put toward spending time with your romantic partner and showing them affection, the other areas of your life are going to suffer. Life shouldn't be focused only on one thing (Porter, 2022).

Breathe. Love yourself first. There are billions of people in this planet. Do not allow someone to limit your worth. No one must take away your peace and happiness. You need to be in control with them. Not others.

Messy

 

Nagwagit da an agi! Isn’t it good to have organized schedules and well-kept surrounding? You see, there are people whose organization skills are evident on the way they arrange the contents of their bags to the plans that they do for the day.

An organized personality is a person who is naturally neat, punctual and detailed. Their habits and behaviors in life and at work are ordered, planned and efficient. They have natural organizational skills that other personality types might have to work to develop (indeed.com, 2021).

Psychological science tells us that we cannot control our external circumstances, but we can control our internal circumstances (our homes, our spaces) we will have better outcomes with regards to controlling our thoughts and emotions as well.

Clutter is not good. People often question others when they see their homes in disarray. When leaders also push people to situations where there are no foundations and clear-cut plans, subordinates will then be stressed-out with the mess.

The thing about organization is, it is not just about where things go, or the system you use to organize your space, it’s about the WHY. Understanding why you want to organize your day and the days ahead is just as important as understanding how to do it.

Then, the hideous part is when these disorganized persons will try to muddle with you. They will even accuse you of things which you are not guilty of. Their disorganized thoughts will have this mental projection that you are NOT efficient enough on coping with their spur-of-the-moment ideas!

Again, we fortify our personalities by believing on the things that we consider as OK anchored to the greater good.

Let us de-stress by de-cluttering.