Di kun hilabian da ad-on na
gugma? Have you thought about the fearsome message
brought by the song which goes: I can’t live without you? Isn’t it too much to
surrender your happiness to another person?
Self-reliance,
in its most basic form, is having the skills required and confidence in your
ability to meet your needs without dependence on others (Jenkins, 2020).
Our
emotions (like attraction to the opposite or similar sex) is within the
boundaries of our control. This is what Covey mentions as something within our
sphere of influence. We cannot control the feeling of others towards us, but we
can control our reactions and actions towards how others deal with us.
Emotions
might be harmful when they are excessive. Emotional excess is harmful for the
same reasons that other kinds of excess are harmful. As in other emotions,
excessiveness in love can impede the lover from seeing a broader perspective.
Even normal cases of romantic love tend to create a narrow temporal perspective
that focuses on the beloved and is often oblivious to other considerations (Ben-Zeev,
2009).
There
are those people who limit themselves with their significant others as their
sole companion. They cannot expand their view of the world since their exposure
is limited to their created small circle. Others cannot even go out to have
adventures and travels since they are being restricted by their lovers!
Spending
your time giving too much love to someone else might cause you to neglect
yourself. If all of your energy is put toward spending time with your romantic partner
and showing them affection, the other areas of your life are going to suffer.
Life shouldn't be focused only on one thing (Porter, 2022).
Breathe.
Love yourself first. There are billions of people in this planet. Do not allow
someone to limit your worth. No one must take away your peace and happiness.
You need to be in control with them. Not others.
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