Blatherskites

 

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Tungod sa ka-bright ya na magpakatunong! Tungod sab kay nag pa-bright bright ya na noon maamo Have you experienced to have this confusion when a boss or a companion in the workplace speak of a certain concept that you often cannot comprehend?

Worse, when you will be blamed with an assigned task without a framework.

According to a report from the Economist Intelligence Unit, poor communication can lead to low morale, missed performance goals, and even lost sales in business.

But what about those leaders who project intelligence then pass the responsibilities to their subordinates? They find “empowerment” and “delegation” as excuses. In fact, they simply do not want to do the task (or do not know about it) that they simply pass it on.

It is all very well to try to get things off one’s plate. But if the leader is simply removing work from the pile only to dump it onto someone else’s, this isn’t necessarily effective time management (Brearley, 2020).

In the education arena, there are teachers who complain about too much paper work since the school authorities are passing-on their work to them. There are even school heads assigning teachers to track the lesson plans and develop findings through analyses! No wonder many of them are complaining about paperwork.

Being detached from the team can also cause a leader to be distanced from the details of their work. One doesn’t need to know everything, but often the leader is expected to be able to speak about the work of the team or report progress. Having no answers never looks very good!

There is a need to be at par with the position one is proud about. Self-improvement through developing the self by continuously learning and exposing oneself to learning opportunities are tantamount to the outputs expected of a leader.

Let us be empowered. We do the tasks first and allow others to learn through modelling.

Then, the achievements you post on social media can be more meaningful than claiming them as solely your effort.

 

Bad Fruit

 

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Report dajon kan Tulfo amo da sab di kun sila an sayaan! There are parents who are creating noise these days since they are always putting the blame when teachers react to the misbehavior and misconduct of their children. They even use the word “trauma” as if they understand the magnitude of such experience.

Trauma, according to the American Psychological Association, is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape, or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships, and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea.

And shouting to the unruly adolescent to “Shut Up!” can cause trauma? What about the neglect the parents gave by NOT giving them complete meals which is a basic responsibility of them?

As parental affection and influence decreases and the amount of time children spend in non-parental care increases, an increased likelihood for behavioral problems both at home and at school is observed. Parents are critical in every aspect of a child’s development (Cavell and Strand, 2002).

Authority, responsibility, discipline, and accountability constitute the foundation of a sensible behavioral structure in all persons. Parents fail to exert these four premises of behavior in their children and this has gone a long way into shaping their children’s failing to uphold moral values and etiquette.

And when these children converge inside a classroom with only one teacher to traffic their undisciplined action, what is there to expect? There are parents who will then say that teachers are paid to be facilitative with the behavior of the learners. It can be true. But the mentors are not there to clean up the mess of these irresponsible parents manifesting on the ill manners of the children.

Let them know their inadequacies! The teachers can compose themselves even if their emotions are boiled up. They can call the attention of the parents and confront them with their irresponsibility. They can even raise their voices since NEGLECT is child abuse. A teacher can tell the parents up front that THEY are the ones causing long-term trauma to their children.

Since some are weaponizing the social media, the teachers can do the same. Subtly and in a professional manner, they can post things on why these cretins become who they are.

Tell them the story of a bad tree bearing rotten fruits!

Center of the Universe

 

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Uman di man sija makatunong pagtubag? Have you encountered people who do not know how to answer questions? You see, there are those who will be asked with a simple question answerable with yes or no but they answer you with phrases. That is when communication halts.

Is this their way of sounding clever? Or, they are simply incompetent with their communication skills.

A good communicator can encourage two-way dialogue, discuss critical issues, exchange information, build trust, and engage people in the desired goals of a group.

Good communication skills are key to success in life, work and relationships. Without effective communication, a message can turn into error, misunderstanding, frustration, or even disaster by being misinterpreted or poorly delivered (Hereford, 2020).

Yet, there are people who are incapable to communicate since the concept of this as two-way is not applicable to them. They think that their own ideas are the important ones. Often, their insecurities propel them to block another person for them not to confront the inferiority of their ideas. Or, their narcissistic personality overpowers.

One of the main reasons why we dislike certain personalities is their inability to listen and their power-seeking efforts to cut us off. These types like to be the center of the conversations to the point that they think that all conversations gravitate to them, their spouses and children or anything about their lives.

If you know somebody who constantly makes everything about themselves or seems to have little to no consideration for others, you are likely dealing with a self-centered person.  This is common with people who have narcissistic personality disorder and makes it difficult for them to maintain healthy relationships with others (Mutziger, 2022).

Sometimes, the concept of “having a standard” on friendships is a wrong concept. You simply do not know how to communicate well. This might be caused by something in your personality. A disorder might be one.

 

 

Swatting the Gadfly

 

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Jaoy gajod siway na pangisip.Magpahisulti da lamang para kaw ma-insulto In a group, an organization or even a small circle, there will always be someone or two who give you headaches.

Psychological theories of deviant behavior come from a variety of perspectives. The psychoanalytic approach, for example, might suggest that all people have repressed, unconscious urges that lead to social deviance (Hartney, 2022).

Learning theories, on the other hand, might suggest that these behaviors are learned by watching others engage in deviant behaviors.

Genetics also has an effect on temperament and overall personality. These characteristics and traits may influence the likelihood that a person is born with the character traits.

But, can’t an adult learn to be more congenial and behaved rather than enjoy being the gadfly? You see, it is very irritating for leaders to be continuously bombarded with the “complaining” simply for the sake of the act with no deeper intention but to create confusion among the group.

Why some people are enjoying being cruel?

Humans typically do things to get pleasure or avoid pain. For most of us, hurting others causes us to feel their pain. And we don’t like this feeling. This suggests two reasons people may harm the harmless – either they don’t feel the pain of others or they enjoy feeling that others are in pain (McCarthy-Jones, 2020).

Another reason people harm the harmless is because they nonetheless see them as threat. Their insecurities propel them to insult, hurt or deviate from your ideas since they feel that they are better than you.

Poor people! We could not imagine how unhappy their lives can be.

For us, we continue to learn and proceed to become better versions of ourselves by empowering others. Not hurting or insulting them.

We See You!

 

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Simay kilaya ini sa ila?

THE GRIPER. Everything is against them. Everything must be complained at – the weather, the system, their jobs, their responsibilities. These people experienced childhood deprivation to the point that their adult lives must be spent on letting others become unhappy like them.

THE OVER-CONFIDENT. They believe that they are gifted with all the knowledge in the world that they belittle others even in public. They just do not understand that their actions are magnifying their ignorance by making a façade of being great. But times are changing, People can now determine who is intelligent and who’s a moron.

THE SOCMED PATROL. You may think that these types of people are busy since most of the day, they are stooped to their laptops. Yet, they are just looking into the posts of others to look for mistakes. Also, they seldom post anything since their grammar is nightmarish! They’d rather be the fault-finder than the one to commit a mistake!

THE PATRON. Ever met people who patronizes you? They openly appreciate your achievement and will even tell you that they idolize you. Beware, these persons are just putting up a front. Behind your back, they backbite.

THE MANIPULATOR. There are times when at your down moments, there are people who will introduce themselves as supportive to you. Yet, true to their evil intentions, they simply see your weaknesses as your Achilles’ Heels. They will then pounce for the kill!

Yet, these people think that we do not know! That we are unaware of their motives. Listen: You just wait. You cannot CON a CON.

WE understand that water has its course; that the bad intention will surely go back to those whose intentions are dark. What goes around comes around.

We will talk about you. We laugh when similar minds see your feigned “power”. We then see the decline of your sanity, happiness and even relationships. When you talk about our seemingly “bad” performance, people know how to compare you and our efforts and outputs. They even tell us about your stupidity!

We then become victorious in our quest for self-development while you will be destroyed and rotten to the core.

The Real Winners

 

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Uman an bala man noon an hamok na reklamo? An mga bagtik noon di magbujong! Is this some sort of a defense mechanism?

Complaining isn’t all bad.  Occasional venting and expression of negative emotions to a colleague about difficult situations allow us to get our concerns out into the open, and in doing so, lessen possible stress reactions. Repressing our feelings may stop us from naming our problem and getting to the bottom of it. People also complain in order to feel better about themselves (de Vries, 2021).

But complaints can also be used as a way to exercise power and influence perceptions. Especially within organizations, which can be hotbeds of political games, people use complaining in order to get people’s support.

According to the Harvard Business Review: In many cases, chronic complaining starts early in life, as a means of gaining visibility and establishing rapport in the family. These early experiences can become deeply ingrained patterns of behavior.

Some griping is healthy, says Dr. Guy Winch — but too much can fill us with constant stress hormones. It can also infect those around us with our negativity, he adds.” We are just really stressing ourselves out and having a really negative perception of the world, and there’s a price you pay for that,” he says.

On the other side of the fence, there are those who are resilient and performing their work as silently as they can. They are slaying the challenges like David toppling down a Goliath.

Research has shown that resiliency is pretty common. People tend to demonstrate resilience more often than you think. Demonstrating resiliency doesn’t necessarily mean that you have not suffered difficulty or distress. It also doesn’t mean you have not experienced emotional pain or sadness. The road to resilience is often paved with emotional stress and strain (Riopel, 2019).

Yet, the development of the coping strategies is the main accomplishment of these people. These coping mechanisms are being used every time they encounter challenges keeping them quiet and focused on the goal. These people then become the silent winners since they gain out from the encounters rather than complain about them.

Everywhere, you encounter those who are noisy and those who are quietly slaying their weaknesses. Later, these silent ones are the real victors manifesting on their life and work accomplishments.