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Pagtoo nila bright sila ambaja kay tala-tala. Imposing people aren’t born, they’re made.
There’s no gene or biological, physiological indicator that leads someone to
become bossy. This tendency or this need to control other people is clearly
transmitted through culture. First it comes from their general surroundings,
and then from the family.
Have
you noticed that there are people around you who seem imposing? The word
“please” is not in their vocabulary. Also, they seem to forget that no one has
the monopoly of knowledge and ideas.
What
makes these people become imposing is, on the one hand, a value system, and on
the other, a combination of features of their personality. The bossy person
doesn’t think they have a problem. Actually they usually think their actions
are praiseworthy. Even their psychological conflicts reaffirm their opinion (exploringyourmind.com).
When
others feign superiority, it is an obstacle for creativity, prevents moving
forward and change, and encourages unhealthy patterns of communication. It also
makes human relationships into a constant source of conflict that sometimes
explode and sometimes sticks around as uninteresting and unproductive.
A
lot of chances for development will be curtailed when the imposing person
criticize others and insist on the “brilliance” of his/her idea. Contempt is
always developed around these personalities.
What
causes controlling behavior?
The
most common are anxiety disorders and personality disorders. People with
anxiety disorders feel a need to control everything around them in order to
feel at peace. They may not trust anyone else to handle things the way they
will.
Nazario
(2022) mentions that controlling behaviors can also be a symptom of several
personality disorders, such as histrionic personality, borderline personality,
and narcissistic personality.
But
since we know that there is something wrong with them, can we just let this
pass? When we are constantly bombarded with the imposing situations we can
always tell them to slow down. If they persist and continually insult us, in a
curt voice, we can say:
See
a doctor! Specifically, a psychiatrist. You are sick!
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