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Uman
sige man kaw reklamo?
Sure
thing, you know someone who complains a lot. They complain about the weather,
the people around them and even their work. Most of these people tend to forget
being grateful. They always dwell on the side where there is something to
complain about.
There
are those who never seem to be satisfied. These are known as chronic
complainers. They have a tendency to ruminate on problems and to focus on
setbacks over progress.
The
second type of complaint is the familiar “venting.” Venting is expressing
emotional dissatisfaction. It turns out that people who vent have an agenda.
They tend to be focused on themselves and their own—presumably
negative—experience. By showing their anger, frustration, or disappointment,
they are soliciting attention from their confidantes. They can feel validated
by receiving attention and sympathy. Venters are particularly likely to
discount advice and proposed solutions to their problems. They aren’t looking
to solve anything; they simply want validation (Biswas-Diener, 2017).
The
last type of complaint is known as the “instrumental complaint.” Unlike its
wrinkle-nosed conceptual cousins, the instrumental complaint is all about
solving problems.
These
days we wonder about people who have been blessed with jobs. Some constantly
complain about almost everything. Some researchers found out that it was due to
the small amount of take-home pay that they have. But they used the money they
loaned ahead, right?
It
is OK to complain if we are experiencing beyond what is right, and find
solutions on the pressing problem. But it is another story if complaining is
our behavior towards anything and everything.
If
we look into the good things in our lives, the blessings that we receive and
live a simple life, better days are ahead of us.
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