The Opposite of Being Grateful

 

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Sure thing, you know someone who complains a lot. They complain about the weather, the people around them and even their work. Most of these people tend to forget being grateful. They always dwell on the side where there is something to complain about.

There are those who never seem to be satisfied. These are known as chronic complainers. They have a tendency to ruminate on problems and to focus on setbacks over progress.

The second type of complaint is the familiar “venting.” Venting is expressing emotional dissatisfaction. It turns out that people who vent have an agenda. They tend to be focused on themselves and their own—presumably negative—experience. By showing their anger, frustration, or disappointment, they are soliciting attention from their confidantes. They can feel validated by receiving attention and sympathy. Venters are particularly likely to discount advice and proposed solutions to their problems. They aren’t looking to solve anything; they simply want validation (Biswas-Diener, 2017).

The last type of complaint is known as the “instrumental complaint.” Unlike its wrinkle-nosed conceptual cousins, the instrumental complaint is all about solving problems.

These days we wonder about people who have been blessed with jobs. Some constantly complain about almost everything. Some researchers found out that it was due to the small amount of take-home pay that they have. But they used the money they loaned ahead, right?

It is OK to complain if we are experiencing beyond what is right, and find solutions on the pressing problem. But it is another story if complaining is our behavior towards anything and everything.

If we look into the good things in our lives, the blessings that we receive and live a simple life, better days are ahead of us.