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We
often encounter individuals who consistently strive to be at the forefront,
sometimes resorting to manipulative tactics to achieve their objectives. These
people might engineer situations to ensure they remain in prominent positions,
driven by a need for recognition and control.
Validation
is a fundamental aspect of human psychology. This need influences behavior,
shapes self-perception, and affects interpersonal relationships.
Abraham
Maslow's hierarchy of needs places the need for esteem and belongingness as
essential for psychological well-being. Validation and approval from others
fulfill these esteem needs, contributing to a sense of achievement and
recognition (Maslow, 1943).
What
drives some individuals to seek recognition so intensely that it becomes
obvious but appears natural to them?
Research
based on John Bowlby’s attachment theory suggests that early attachment
experiences with caregivers shape the need for approval and validation in adulthood.
Insecure attachment may result in heightened dependency on external approval to
feel valued (Ainsworth et al., 1978).
This
is where the danger lies: when a person does not realize that intrinsic
validation is more valuable than extrinsic validation, they may continually
take on roles and responsibilities beyond their capacity. This relentless
pursuit of external approval can lead to burnout and undermine their
well-being.
Leon
Festinger’s Social Comparison Theory (1954) suggests that individuals evaluate
their own worth and abilities by comparing themselves to others. Accepting
roles and responsibilities can be a way to elevate one’s status in comparison
to peers. This comparison can provide a sense of achievement and validation,
reinforcing self-worth.
But,
relying heavily on external validation can make individuals vulnerable to
fluctuations in others' opinions and approval. This dependency can undermine
intrinsic motivation and self-worth.
Focusing
on extrinsic validation makes individuals dependent on external factors beyond
their control. This can lead to a fragile sense of self-worth that fluctuates
with others' opinions and feedback.
Developing
self-awareness helps individuals recognize when they are overly reliant on
extrinsic validation and shift their focus towards internal sources of
affirmation.
Intrinsic
validation is vital for fostering genuine self-esteem, resilience, and
long-term well-being. The opposite drives the cuckoos in you.
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