Unload

 

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Way lain kadumdoman, an kalabad da!

Lingering on a certain negative emotion is a choice. It is the person’s option to implant it in the system that the emotion tends to recur. This one will then bother the person since the choice to wallow on it was made.

“When a person has a reaction to something in their environment, there’s a 90 second chemical process that happens in the body; after that, any remaining emotional response is just the person choosing to stay in that emotional loop,” says Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a Harvard-trained neuroscientist who specialized in the anatomy of the brain.

Recurrent, persistent feelings that are causing distress and impairing relationships, impacting work, school, or other important areas are an indication that something is going.

Our emotions encompass experiences that combine physiological arousal; however, feelings are also influenced by our interpretation of how we perceive a situation. Especially when childhood experiences are rooted in early trauma, these narratives can be very painful and take time to heal (Johnson, 2022)

It is not good to feel negative emotions all the time. Stress is a normal reaction to the pressures of everyday life. However, if the stress that underlies these emotions interferes with your ability to do the things you want or need to do, this stress has become unhealthy.

Be mindful. Mindfulness is learning how to focus your attention and become more aware. You can learn to feel the physical changes in your body that happen in response to your changing emotions. Understanding this mind-body connection is the first step in learning how to manage your stress and how emotions affect your body.

Focus your mind on something other than what’s causing your stress. Do something fun. Stay away from toxic people and live your life free from stressful encounters.

Attractive

 

Kun unoy imo isuyod pirme sa imo pangisip…

Garbage in, garbage out. This is a concept common to computer science and Mathematics: the quality of output is determined by the quality of the input. In simple terms, what you place inside your mind determines your actions and words.

Your thoughts, intentions, and your mindset about the people and the world manifest through the way you talk, your manners and the way you treat others.

The law of attraction is a philosophy suggesting that positive thoughts bring positive results into a person's life, while negative thoughts bring negative outcomes. It is based on the belief that thoughts are a form of energy and that positive energy attracts success in all areas of life, including health, finances, and relationships (Scott, 2022).

Negative thinking is believed to attract negative experiences, while positive thinking is believed to produce desirable experiences. Removing negative things from one’s life can make space for more positive things to take their place. It is based on the notion that it is impossible to have a completely empty space in the mind and in your life. Since something will always fill this space, it is important to fill that space with positivity.

There are people who seem to bring gloom with them. The environment seems to be covered with a dark cloud once they are around. The energy they bring are oftentimes considered as stressful and dark.

These individuals often drain the energy from others. That’s why they must be avoided. Their hang-ups and unmet needs often infect the sphere of one’s space that such spaces can be easily muddled with murk.

We create our own reality. What we focus on is what we draw into our lives. It suggests that what you believe will happen in your life is what does happen.

Think well. Get away from negative people. Be at peace. Be happy.

The Opposite of Being Grateful

 

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Uman sige man kaw reklamo?

Sure thing, you know someone who complains a lot. They complain about the weather, the people around them and even their work. Most of these people tend to forget being grateful. They always dwell on the side where there is something to complain about.

There are those who never seem to be satisfied. These are known as chronic complainers. They have a tendency to ruminate on problems and to focus on setbacks over progress.

The second type of complaint is the familiar “venting.” Venting is expressing emotional dissatisfaction. It turns out that people who vent have an agenda. They tend to be focused on themselves and their own—presumably negative—experience. By showing their anger, frustration, or disappointment, they are soliciting attention from their confidantes. They can feel validated by receiving attention and sympathy. Venters are particularly likely to discount advice and proposed solutions to their problems. They aren’t looking to solve anything; they simply want validation (Biswas-Diener, 2017).

The last type of complaint is known as the “instrumental complaint.” Unlike its wrinkle-nosed conceptual cousins, the instrumental complaint is all about solving problems.

These days we wonder about people who have been blessed with jobs. Some constantly complain about almost everything. Some researchers found out that it was due to the small amount of take-home pay that they have. But they used the money they loaned ahead, right?

It is OK to complain if we are experiencing beyond what is right, and find solutions on the pressing problem. But it is another story if complaining is our behavior towards anything and everything.

If we look into the good things in our lives, the blessings that we receive and live a simple life, better days are ahead of us.

Unsatisfied

 

Manhilabot dakan nan kwarta na di kun ila…

We heard stories about how people extort money from subordinates, applicants and companions. There are instances that the deed is seen by our own eyes. The actions of such people will then lead us to ask: What are their unaddressed needs? You see, most of these persons have money, yet they continue thirsting for it even at the expense of others.

Greed is a universal human experience that has been present throughout history. It can be traced back to ancient philosophical and religious texts, where it was often regarded as a vice or a sin. In many cultures, greed is associated with excess, and it is considered to be a destructive force that can lead to personal and social harm.

According to cowrywise.com: People who are not contented are always dissatisfied with their lives irrespective of the level they are at or what they have. They are in a perpetual state of want and this influences how they pursue money and the need to make money.

Greed can stem from emotional trauma and unmet needs. In a bid to replace the emptiness of emotional distress, a person can attempt to use objects or possessions. What happens if this becomes an addiction or there isn’t enough money to fund this habit? A constant need to get money (Onojadofia, 2023).

There are movements on self-awareness and of being contented with what we have. There are also self-help books and articles encouraging people to be grateful with what they have. Indeed, those who have unsatisfied cravings are those with emotional and psychological hang-ups.

Would it be enough to mind our own business? Or allow these people to confront their minor and major insanities. Again, depression is not just the one and only issue about mental health. There are things worse than that.

There are traits, behaviors and characteristics that, if untreated, can corrupt the society.

Imprisoned

 

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Bas unoy mahilaong nan iban.

There are people who are so critical to their movements, always censoring their words among themselves and imprisoned with the thought of pleasing others. They are not free to express themselves. They fear not to be accepted.

People who have a fear of rejection are afraid of not being liked, being abandoned, not fitting in or being alone. People who fear rejection may struggle with low self-esteem, lack of confidence, shame, or guilt, and spend a lot of time and energy worrying about what others think of them. They will often neglect their own needs or let people take advantage of them to be liked (riser, 2022).

There are those who feel like we are not good enough for others they cower on thought of expressing their ideas and opinions. They even proceed to the deed of criticizing others who have strong personalities and think: I must not be that kind of person.

Betancourt (2022) mentions that we live in a society where we compare ourselves to others. And when we don’t measure up, it can feel like a personal failure. When you compare yourself to others, you will always find someone better than you. It’s important to remember that everyone is unique and has different strengths and weaknesses.

Why consider other’s opinion towards you? As long as your intentions are good, all would be well. We understand when NOT to do something especially with a reflective mindset. But to constantly curtail your growth because of what other may think is not healthy.

Don’t be imprisoned in a cell you created yourself. You will never reach the level of success designed for you if you will constantly allow for others to validate your actions.

Unquenchable

Hawoy kun way kwarta…

Money is important. There is no doubt about it. People have bills to pay and needs to address. The lack of finances will oftentimes de-motivate people to move around. In this expensive world, happiness seems to be equated with having money.

But, would this be the main reason why some people place their credibility to waste? Is money the main motivator why even some educated persons resort to dishonesty? Or, is there a deep meaning behind the greed to have more of it…

Extrinsic motivation occurs when we are motivated to perform a behavior or engage in an activity to earn a reward or avoid punishment.  In this instance, people are coerced into behaving in a specific way, not because they want to, but because they either want something in return (most often monetary reward), or because they want to avoid something unpleasant such as being reprimanded or losing their job (Hearn, 2018)

“People have three psychological needs – to feel autonomous, to feel competent and to feel related to others,” according to psychologist Edward Deci. Payment does not fulfill these needs. Over-emphasis on financial reward undermines autonomy and therefore intrinsic motivation, he says.

Probably, greed on money stems down to deprivation. Psychoanalytically, deprivation is the reduced fulfillment of a desire or need that is felt to be essential. Sigmund Freud (1927) considered deprivation the result of the frustration of a drive that could not be satisfied because of a prohibition during early childhood.

There are those who have already money yet they still crave for more. Even to the point of abusing their powers, they are driven to hoard it without thinking about the difficulties of those they are victimizing. Probably, they were deprived of food and material possessions and recognition early on?

We contend that materialistic cues would bring about personal relative deprivation. As many other goals, the aspiration for material acquisition may be inert most of the time. However, a materialistic environment can activate materialistic aspirations (Bauer et al., 2012; Kim, 2013).

Money and material possessions serve many evolutionary and practical functions. Although excessive materialism has been linked to diminished well-being (Dittmar et al., 2014), it is still very appealing to many people to acquire more and more material possessions.

Again, it is in self-evaluation and reflection what deprivations one has experienced which propels the inner person to be UNCONTENTED.

Darkness from Within

 

Jaoy imo kilaya na tanan tawo sanan butang jaoy gajod ila mahisaway?

The term “Dark Triad” refers to a trio of negative personality traits—narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy—which share some common malevolent features. The construct was coined by researchers Delroy L. Paulhus and Kevin M. Williams in 2002.

People with these traits tend to be callous and manipulative, willing to do or say practically anything to get their way. They have an inflated view of themselves and are often shameless about self-promotion. These individuals are likely to be impulsive and may engage in dangerous behavior without any regard for how their actions affect others (Williams, 2022).

If someone is going to succeed, these people will likely find faults and say negative things about the persons in the limelight. They cannot endure the fame of others. You often hear then saying: I don’t like him/her for no particular reasons at all. Chances are, the subjects may pose a threat to their egocentric intentions.

Superiority complex was first identified by Alfred Adler, an early psychologist, in his theory of individual psychology. He defined superiority complexes as a reaction to a deep feeling of inferiority.

People with very strong feelings of inferiority have a hard time convincing themselves that they have actually achieved enough. To compensate, Adler argues that these people play up their accomplishments and opinions to make themselves feel better.

Let us accept that these persons exist. They are around us. But with deep understanding about our own SELF, let us not allow them to belittle us. Let them wallow on their beliefs that they are better that ALL of us where in fact THEY HAVE NOT PROVEN ANYTHING AT ALL.

They can continue to stain their environment with the darkness from their hearts; they can continue seeing others as competitors. But we can be victorious with our simple accomplishments that they do not have.