Hilom pero layom! Makalaong kaw na bootan ambaja… There are those
people who seem to fade on the background. These are the quiet ones when in a
gathering. They seem to be contented being the wallflowers but when they are by
their group, they are like bombs exploding with criticisms and gossips.
Some researchers argue that gossip helped our ancestors survive. Evolutionary psychologist Robin Dunbar first pioneered this idea, comparing gossip to the grooming primates engage in as a means of bonding. Instead of picking fleas and dirt off one another to bond, Ludden explains, we now talk, which is “where gossip comes in, because chit-chat is mostly talking about other people and conveying social information.”
But what about those people who are feeding on malicious gossip? Is it a result of poor mental or intellectual capacity? Or they are natural born back-stabbers…
The Collins dictionary defines malicious gossip this way: If you describe someone's words or actions as malicious, you mean that they are intended to harm people or their reputation, or cause them embarrassment and upset.
The journal Social Psychological and Personality Science found that the typical person spends about 52 minutes per day gossiping. Mark Leary, PhD, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Duke University who specializes in social and personal psychology, explains it this way: Gossiping is a fundamental human instinct because our lives are deeply rooted in groups. We not only live in groups, but we also depend on the people in our groups to survive.
But for those whose intentions are vile, Ahad (2015) mentioned, one of the reasons why gossiping is bad is because it can ruin the other person’s reputation. No one is born evil; we are good people on the inside so everyone should be given the benefit of the doubt. However, if you’re one to maliciously spread rumors about someone, it can really fog their reputation thus affecting them when trying to meet new people or land a new job.
Spreading gossip can offend people and rightfully so. As a result, you can be confronted about your bad habit. Not only is this embarrassing and awkward for you, but you usually will end up looking like the bad person for spreading gossip or rumors.
For us, we eject these people from our ecology. They do not allow us to grow but hamper our being and becoming. These people will become hurdles to our success since they always put us down. They are not motivators since they enjoy putting more darkness in to our life. We embrace the light by pushing them out of our paths.
They are like that because they take their confidence from hurting others. Their only way to feel superior is to spread vile rumors. Actually, this is a manifestation of inferiority. They do not have the courage to speak their thoughts up front since they know who they are. They will then bloat their egos when the source of their inferiority is not around. They gossip.
Don’t associate with people who find such great joy in belittling others. Be very careful about what you choose to tell these people. They might be gossiping about you soon. Remember, they LIKE belittling others and that doesn’t exclude you.
We continue to better ourselves. We improve and gain what we deserve. We acquire more knowledge and use them well. The envious ones will have MORE to gossip about. They will eventually spend more time with this task and forget about their own well-being. They will be left behind.
Let us give them OUR efforts and simple successes. These things are their sources of malicious efforts to bring us down. Eventually, since we will be having more and them less, the rest of their lives will be spent looking for the loopholes of others’ success.
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