I'm Not The Creep!

 

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Sobrahan da pagbelib sa kaugalingon. Self-confidence is the key to success. But too much of it is arrogance. There are those around who believe that they are better than everyone around them. They oftentimes see us as lesser beings. They do not understand respect because for them, they are the only ones MEANT to be respected.

Arrogance can be defined as the personality trait whereby a person has an obnoxiously elevated sense of self-worth. An arrogant person is the one who acts as if they’re superior, more worthy, and more important than others. Therefore, they tend to disrespect and put others down (Parvez, 2014).

There are times when we wonder about their psychological well-being. Why do they tend to hurt and disrespect others? Were they oppressed when they were still young? Is the arrogance a by-product of deprivation or trauma? Are they mentally-ill?

Cerdan (2019) posited that arrogance serves as a defense mechanism. It’s a way to protect people’s self-esteem and self-worth. It is a way to hide and compensate for insecurity, inferiority, lack of self-confidence. Arrogance helps people to reject others before they can reject them. It’s a way to prevent them from hurting the self. It is, therefore, more common to behave arrogantly towards strangers, out of fear of rejection.

Narcissism is the psychological term for arrogance and there are two types of narcissistic, vulnerable and grandiose. Vulnerable narcissism is the one who uses arrogance to compensate for his insecurity. Grandiose narcissism really believes to be as perfect as is shown.

Again, with the pressing concerns about mental health, people must be aware of their traits so to be able to adjust or heal and be in harmony with others. Like the dreaded cancer and AIDS, mental illnesses proliferate the society these days eating up its value system and producing chaotic and unhealthy relationships.

But denial is also another phase to be reflected on. People often justify their actions and look for reasons for them NOT to be the culprit. They find scapegoats and continue living their MAD world.

There are times when it is fair for us to say to them straight-facedly: YOU’RE SICK!