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gusto? Have you met people who insist on doing something
which they think as THE BEST thing to do? They often believe that they have the
monopoly of knowledge. If you do not do their thing, you will then be labelled
as INEFFICIENT.
Some
other people are skilled at controlling other people. They have an autocratic,
demanding style of interacting. They like to command others to behave according
to their wishes. These may be changing whims––one thing one minute, another the
next. They commonly want gratification by other people of their own needs or
desires (Adams, 2022).
In
the late 1960’s, the term “Control Freak” was coined. The term is then directed
to people who tend to control even the minutest things in the surrounding.
These people are all over – the offices, the homes, the circle of friends and definitely
everywhere.
According
to Parvez (2021), control freaks have a strong need to control others because
they believe they lack control themselves. So excessive need to control means
the person is lacking control somehow in their own life.
Instead
of regaining control over the thing they lost control over in the first place,
some people try to regain control over others.
If
someone tries to control situations or other people to an unhealthy extent,
others may describe them as a controlling person. They may try to control a
situation by taking charge and doing everything themselves or control others
through manipulation, coercion, threats, and intimidation.
A
wounded grandiose self-image is a symptom of what Freud and other psychologists
call a narcissistic wound. A narcissistic wound or wounds suffered earlier in
life can be so deep, that the person experiencing them no longer has a healthy
ego strength. Without their constant cultivation of perfection, they feel they
are just the broken little boy or girl that was injured so long ago (Felton,
2021).
It
goes back to childhood once again. Reflections and self-assessment really help.
If we cannot control ourselves, there is a great danger that we might control
others.
Sometimes
people try to assert power over others and control situations. In other cases,
it may be to assert dominance. In this case, it is a form of abuse.
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