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ija kayag!
In
the bestselling book of Mark Manson “Everything is F*cked,” he mentioned that
hopelessness is the root of anxiety, mental illness and the cause of all
addiction. Delusion, addiction, and obsession – these are all the mind’s
desperate and compulsive attempts at generating hope...”
So
with envy.
When
a person desires the physical attributes and material possessions of others, it
emanates a spark to do something to acquire such attributes and things. This
will propel the person’s interest to strive, or if skewed, to do such in a
wrong or illegal manner.
Clinical
psychologist Josh Gressel (2017) mentioned you can make envy as a primary
emotion that you can use for your growth. At its most basic, to envy is to want
something that someone else has and that you think you lack. Self-acceptance
may be the most important step of all to keep you on the envy treadmill.
By
reframing envy as a signal for potential growth rather than a source of
resentment, an individual can channel this emotion constructively. For
instance, instead of begrudging a colleague's success, one can analyze the
skills or strategies that contributed to their achievements and strive to
emulate or adapt these for personal development.
This
transformative approach involves self-reflection and a proactive attitude,
where envy becomes a rubric for setting higher standards and pursuing
continuous improvement. In essence, by understanding and redirecting the energy
behind envy, it becomes a valuable tool for enhancing one's capabilities and
achieving greater fulfilment.
Envy
is often rooted in low self-esteem – sometimes from very early unmet childhood
needs where the person feels inherently not good enough. An envious person may
frequently ‘compare and despair’ and find themselves wanting. They feel
deficient in themselves and have a constant hunger to fill that deficiency
(Dempsey, 2022).
Without
allowing the thinking process to have its deepened flow and with the pressing
distractions the mind is experiencing, one can NOT proceed to self-assessment.
By
cultivating self-awareness, we can harness envy as a positive motivator instead
of allowing it to remain as a negative emotion.
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