Output Driven

 

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Pinta kaabtik moplano, yay nahuman.

There are movements cropping-up on social media sites that people must not publicly announce their plans. This is simply consistent to the pressure one might have if such plans won’t be materialized.

Individuals who excel at planning but struggle to materialize their plans often face what is known as the "intention-action gap." This discrepancy occurs when one's strategic foresight and detailed planning capabilities are not matched by the ability to execute those plans effectively.

Research suggests that this gap can be attributed to a variety of factors, including a lack of self-regulation, inadequate resources, and unforeseen external obstacles. Additionally, cognitive biases such as the planning fallacy—where individuals underestimate the time, costs, and risks of future actions while overestimating the benefits—play a significant role in this phenomenon (Hofmann et al., 2012).

Therefore, while these individuals may possess strong organizational skills and foresight, their execution often falters due to these psychological and practical barriers.

Meanwhile, people who are proficient in talking but not in doing are often described as having a high verbal fluency without corresponding action-oriented skills. This phenomenon is frequently linked to the concept of "all talk, no action," where individuals are skilled at articulating ideas, making promises, and engaging in persuasive communication, yet fail to follow through with concrete actions.

This behavior can stem from a variety of psychological and social factors. For instance, research indicates that such individuals may be driven by a desire for social approval and recognition, which they achieve through their verbal skills rather than through tangible accomplishments (Baumeister, 1982).

Additionally, the discrepancy between words and actions can be influenced by a lack of intrinsic motivation or practical competencies required to implement their ideas (Ryan & Deci, 2000). Then, while their conversational abilities may garner attention and praise, their lack of execution often leads to unfulfilled promises and unmet expectations.

The need to align our plans to their materialization and to “walk our talk” are often combinations of reflection, self-awareness and being true to your words.

Driving Force

 

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An kasina amoy nagbuhi sa ija kayag!

In the bestselling book of Mark Manson “Everything is F*cked,” he mentioned that hopelessness is the root of anxiety, mental illness and the cause of all addiction. Delusion, addiction, and obsession – these are all the mind’s desperate and compulsive attempts at generating hope...”

So with envy.

When a person desires the physical attributes and material possessions of others, it emanates a spark to do something to acquire such attributes and things. This will propel the person’s interest to strive, or if skewed, to do such in a wrong or illegal manner.

Clinical psychologist Josh Gressel (2017) mentioned you can make envy as a primary emotion that you can use for your growth. At its most basic, to envy is to want something that someone else has and that you think you lack. Self-acceptance may be the most important step of all to keep you on the envy treadmill.

By reframing envy as a signal for potential growth rather than a source of resentment, an individual can channel this emotion constructively. For instance, instead of begrudging a colleague's success, one can analyze the skills or strategies that contributed to their achievements and strive to emulate or adapt these for personal development.

This transformative approach involves self-reflection and a proactive attitude, where envy becomes a rubric for setting higher standards and pursuing continuous improvement. In essence, by understanding and redirecting the energy behind envy, it becomes a valuable tool for enhancing one's capabilities and achieving greater fulfilment.

Envy is often rooted in low self-esteem – sometimes from very early unmet childhood needs where the person feels inherently not good enough. An envious person may frequently ‘compare and despair’ and find themselves wanting. They feel deficient in themselves and have a constant hunger to fill that deficiency (Dempsey, 2022).

Without allowing the thinking process to have its deepened flow and with the pressing distractions the mind is experiencing, one can NOT proceed to self-assessment.

By cultivating self-awareness, we can harness envy as a positive motivator instead of allowing it to remain as a negative emotion.

 

Unclear Plans

 

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Yay lamang plano…

There were times when a mother nags in the house for those youngsters who are constantly lying around the bed and lounge on chairs for hours without being productive. These episodes are actually development stages of the teens to take up responsibilities which can be useful In the future.

Psychology Today mentions that in humans, the drive for productivity tends to be motivated by a set of overlapping natural desires. These include a desire to contribute to a group, a desire to be challenged and mentally stimulated, and a desire to fulfil basic needs such as food, shelter, and safety.

An individual's productivity hinges on mental energy and a sense of internal and external motivation. It often emerges naturally from work that they find inherently meaningful or valuable.

Unfortunately, there are countless ways for productivity to be derailed. For example, it takes time for the brain to disengage from one set of tasks and to commit to another, so switching between many tasks at once will slow overall productivity.

Once the individual’s motivation is weak, chances are the person switches from one activity to the other leaving the first task to be unfinished. These situations are sometimes stemming up from envy – the person is motivated to perform another task since others are doing it or having a trendy output.

Decades of research suggest that some people are better able to execute and be productive than others and that personality, motivation, and emotions all play a key role in how well someone is able to get things done.

People may exhibit laziness and struggle to complete tasks for a variety of reasons. Often, underlying psychological factors such as fear of failure, lack of motivation, or low self-esteem can play a significant role.

Additionally, environmental factors like a lack of clear goals, poor time management skills, or a distracting environment can hinder productivity. In some cases, individuals might be dealing with mental health issues such as depression or anxiety, which can drain their energy and focus.

Ultimately, this discussion circles back to self-awareness and self-assessment. When individuals become self-aware, they can uncover the root causes of their laziness and low productivity. This understanding paves the way for devising effective strategies to move forward.

Inner

 

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Ya makakilaya sa ija kaugalingon…

Some of the things to irk this writer are - when he feels that someone is trying to make all efforts to feel important; when an individual insists to sit on the most important seat during a gathering; when someone speaks highly of himself and when people see others as lesser beings.

When people think highly of themselves, it often refers to having an inflated sense of ego or self-importance. This means they have an unrealistic view of their abilities, characteristics and accomplishments, and may even have superiority complex (Steinorth-Powell, 2023).

A classic psychological theory from the 1970s—the interpersonal theory of depression developed by James Coyne—describes this behavior. Coyne speculated that people who are depressed engage in “nonreciprocal, high disclosure of intimate problems.” Put simply, individuals who monopolize conversations with a sole focus on their own concerns may not merely display rudeness or insensitivity but may actually be grappling with underlying depressive symptoms.

The exploration of introspection is frequently cited as important toward the cultivation of self-awareness. Upon attaining self-awareness, individuals often exhibit a pronounced inclination to rectify errors stemming from their ego. They possess the capacity to mitigate their shortcomings through volitional efforts aimed at personal growth and development.

When people reflect on their thoughts and feelings, they not only understand themselves better but also realize how their ego affects what they do and think. This self-awareness helps them recognize and fix behaviors influenced by their inner self, leading to better relationships with others.

The process of introspection plays a pivotal role in enhancing individuals' self-awareness and understanding of their ego's influence on their thoughts and actions. As Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung once remarked, "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."

Stunted

 

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Motunga gajod an tinood na kolor…

Even with deliberate control, one’s character traits will always come to the surface. That is the main reason why parenting, good education and intellectual will must prevail.

Today, according to Ramsay (2023), the need for personal growth and development has become critical for anyone who wants to be socially respected. Cultivating essential character traits and exercising self-discipline are crucial components of this journey.

One’s character is what the person really is, while reputation is merely what others think of them. This speaks to the wisdom of developing mature character in all aspects of life. Reputation is simply how other people perceive others based on their actions and behavior. While reputation is important, it is ultimately outside of a person’s control.

We cannot control what others think of us, but we can control who we are and how we behave.

In these turbulent times, we have to focus on how we can affect to the society we are living rather than cause more turmoil to the lives of others. That is how we bring meaning to our existence.

Personality development refers to the process of developing, enhancing, and changing one's personality over time. Such development occurs naturally over the course of life, but it can also be modified through intentional efforts (Cherry, 2023).

It takes a great sense of self-awareness to be able to lead to maturation through intentional efforts. Without the concept of self-assessment, the willingness to change for the better won’t happen.

Freud not only theorized about how personality developed over the course of childhood, but he also developed a framework for how overall personality is structured. It is then important to examine the broken child in us for us to be able to heal and proceed to psychological maturation.

Chaotic episodes are present since character traits are stunted.

Matured

 

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Magbinata pa bisan tiguyang na…

When justifications are made, it must be consistent to the main subject and are not anchored on emotions. People who are reactive would lead to NOT understanding themselves. Reflections and self-assessment are always encouraged to attain maturation.

Behavioral development is focused on cognitive and emotional development, skill acquisition, atypical behavior development/reduction, socialization, education, and language development. It looks at the role of biological and environmental variables that affect behavior development, with a primary interest in the role of reinforcement and environmental contingencies that influence behavior change (Roane, 2024).

Why is it that there are those people who has behavioral development deficits? Conflict will often occur with social interactions in personal and professional settings when emotional immaturity occurs.

Daniel Goleman, who popularized the term "emotional intelligence" in his ground-breaking book Emotional Intelligence, identified five key aspects of the skill: self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy and social skills.

Self-Awareness is understanding and recognizing your own emotions. This goes beyond correctly identifying your feelings.

Self-regulation essentially means finding the right time, avenue and place to express your emotions.

Emotionally intelligent motivation refers to a sense of being motivated by enjoying what you do, consistently working toward goals and setting high standards for yourself, even when surrounded by obstacles.

Empathy: The ability to put yourself, emotionally, into another person’s situation is a critical component of emotional intelligence.

In the context of emotional intelligence, social skills refer to your communication skills, conflict management, rapport building and your ability to be a good team-player.

In the end, it is the person inside who will monitor and decide if the inner self embraces maturation. If not, the child inside will always rear its immature head.

Echoing, Mirroring, Nothing

 

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Yay kaugalingon na estilo, mga kinopya da…

There are those whose identities are complex. They try to mirror the words, mannerisms and way of life of others. They do not have distinct personalities since they only copy what they think is ideal at the moment.

The chameleon effect is a phenomenon that finds us mimicking the mannerisms, gestures, or facial expressions of the people we interact with most often. It causes you to subconsciously make behavioral changes to match the behavior of people in your close social circles, or even strangers (Chartrand, Bargh, 1999).

There is nothing wrong with this if the copied manners are for the better. The problem lies on the formation of one’s personality or identity.

Personal identity is the concept you develop about yourself that evolves over the course of your life. This may include aspects of your life that you have no control over, such as where you grew up or the color of your skin, as well as choices you make in life, such as how you spend your time and what you believe.

But when the formation of identity is dependent on constantly mirroring the personality of others, disruption to the formation of personal identity happens. This is because the individual constantly thirst to have what others (especially those considered as “ideal”) are doing or having.

Lack of self-identity can negatively impact mental health, causing anxiety and low self-esteem. Signs of lacking self-identity include feeling lost or aimless, high stress levels, being like a chameleon, mood swings, lack of purpose, and low self-esteem (Bastos, 2023).

Erik Erikson believed that identity was formed by experimenting with different behaviors and roles, as well as through social interactions. Researcher James Marcia expanded upon Erikson's theory by suggesting that the balance between identity and confusion lies in making a commitment to an identity.

When one could not commit to an identity and constantly desire to be someone else or to have the characters and possession of others, an unhappy life awaits.