Magnifying Mistakes of Others

 

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Mamasawbasaw!

Ever encounter people who automatically look for scapegoats when they commit mistakes? They may blame others, external circumstances, or even the weather. This behavior is often rooted in psychological defense mechanisms.

Defense mechanisms are unconscious psychological strategies employed by individuals to cope with reality and maintain self-image. These mechanisms are well-documented in psychological literature. Freud's (1936) theory of defense mechanisms describes how the ego protects itself from anxiety and unacceptable impulses through various unconscious strategies, including denial and rationalization.

Rationalization involves explaining an unacceptable behavior or feeling in a rational or logical manner, avoiding the true reasons for the behavior. Research by Baumeister et al. (1998) has shown that rationalization helps maintain self-esteem by providing socially acceptable explanations for actions. There are individuals who seek to rationalize their errors. Essentially, they are aware of their wrongdoing or avoidance of responsibilities, yet they excel at constructing plausible justifications for their behavior.

But isn’t this fooling oneself? By rationalizing, individuals can avoid confronting uncomfortable truths about themselves. This self-deception helps them preserve self-esteem and avoid feelings of guilt or shame. For example, someone who fails to get a promotion might rationalize the outcome by blaming external factors rather than acknowledging any personal shortcomings.

This defense mechanism is closely linked to the concept of cognitive dissonance, which is the discomfort experienced when holding two conflicting beliefs or behaviors. To reduce this discomfort, individuals often rationalize their actions to align them with their beliefs. Festinger's (1957) theory of cognitive dissonance provides a framework for understanding how rationalization helps in reducing psychological tension.

Yet, the underlying truth remains unchanged. While we may fully deceive ourselves and others with our rationalizations, there exists a deep, intrinsic awareness of the falsehoods we embellish with superficial justifications.

Inside and Out

 

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She resigned.

There are two things that this writer underscore: the courage of leaving a secured place and the familiarity of an insider.

The Philippine Star reported on June 19, 2024: Vice President Sara Duterte tendered her resignation as Department of Education secretary, dislodging herself from President Ferdinand Marcos Jr.'s Cabinet after a year of flaring political tensions between both of their families. The vice president refused to answer why she stepped down from the position.

Comments on social media were flooded with both fair and unfair comments. Some make sense, others are nonsense.

The reported political tensions between the Duterte and Marcos families could have created a challenging working environment. Power struggles and conflicting interests within the Cabinet may have hindered effective collaboration and governance. The lack of alignment on key policy issues or personal political ambitions could have exacerbated these tensions, leading to her resignation.

Disagreements over educational policies or the administration's approach to education reform may have played a role. As DepEd Secretary, Duterte would have been responsible for significant educational initiatives and reforms. Divergence in visions or strategies with President Marcos Jr. and his administration could have made her position untenable.

And we do not discredit the personal reason she has like family matters as important. The stress and demands of holding dual roles as Vice President and DepEd Secretary are considerable, and personal factors often play a crucial role in such decisions.

Then we hear comments from non-DepEd people questioning her credibility as the secretary of education…

According to Zaccaro et al. (2018), insiders can provide a more accurate and contextualized assessment of a leader's performance, as they are directly involved in the operational dynamics and organizational culture that shape leadership actions. In contrast, non-insiders tend to rely on generalized observations and secondary information, which may lack the depth and specificity required to fully comprehend the intricacies of an individual's tenure and impact within an organization.

As insiders of the Department of Education, we have nuanced understanding of VP Sara’s leadership style, decision-making processes, and specific contributions to educational reforms.

Let us conclude our discussion at this point. The reasons behind her resignation are significant to her personal and political dynamics. We must continue to fulfil our assigned responsibilities. While democracy grants us the freedom to express ourselves, it is imperative that we also commit to thoughtful and informed deliberation of our thoughts.

A lack of informed knowledge poses a significant threat to the freedoms we currently enjoy.

Personal Pursuits

 

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Nahikalimot na pagpalambo nan kaugalingon.

When people sit on their laurels and forget that self-development is a continuum, growth in all aspects will not take place. Incorporating self-development strategies into daily routines can lead to a more fulfilling and successful life.

Research indicates that individuals who actively pursue self-development tend to have higher levels of job satisfaction and better career prospects (London & Smither, 1999). Additionally, self-development practices, such as mindfulness and reflective practices, have been shown to reduce stress and increase psychological resilience (Shapiro, Brown, & Biegel, 2007).

Lack of motivation or clear goals can hinder self-development efforts; without a sense of purpose, individuals may struggle to maintain the drive needed for continuous improvement.

Self-development is not entirely innate in a person; rather, it is influenced by a combination of intrinsic motivations and external factors. While some individuals may naturally possess a stronger inclination towards personal growth, various studies suggest it is significantly shaped by environmental influences and learned behaviors.

Individuals with a growth mindset, who believe that abilities and intelligence can be developed through effort and learning, are more likely to engage in self-development activities (Dweck, 2006). But individuals with a distracted mindset will go astray in improving the self.

Emotional and technological distractions can create constant states of partial attention, reducing the quality of engagement in meaningful activities and limiting deep, reflective thinking (Carr, 2010).

It is in the hands of the person to develop the will to improve oneself. Development of good habits must be self-monitored to further the range of individual capacities. Navigating different prospects of nurturing the self shall be instilled in the mind.

Lifelong learning helps a person stay updated with new information and skills, enhancing personal and professional growth (Kolb, 1984).

By not engaging in self-development, professional stagnation, lower self-esteem, poorer mental health, and weakened social relationships will take place.

Nourishing the Mind

 

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Nagsugod na pagpalyar an utok.

Maybe there are instances when one can feel that their minds are not functioning that much anymore. We oftentimes forget that the mind needs practice all the time. This way it will become more functional especially if we put efforts in making it better.

Engaging in reflective and critical thinking on a regular basis enhances decision-making skills and adaptability. The Harvard Business School mentioned that reflective leadership involves constant self-awareness and introspection, allowing leaders to re-assess their decisions and improve their effectiveness over time.

One key factor why people are not thinking straight is due to the influx of technological distractions like social media and online gaming. When the brain is distracted, several cognitive processes are affected, particularly those related to attention, memory, and critical thinking.

The constant notifications and easy access to social media and other applications create a fragmented attention span, making it difficult for individuals to focus on a single task for an extended period. This phenomenon, often referred to as "continuous partial attention," hampers the brain's ability to engage in deep, focused thinking and problem-solving (Hall, 2022),

Continuous Partial Attention (CPA) is an automatic process that enables people to simultaneously pay attention to several sources of information, whilst scanning for relevant information. It allows people to shift from superficially concentrating on a lot of information to focusing on highly relevant information during a short attention span. This is brought about by the infamous “multitasking”.

In 1998, Linda Stone, a former Apple and Microsoft executive, coined a phrase that gives a name to the crux of our technology-enabled addiction to information: “continuous partial attention.” Through the miniaturization and proliferation of wireless technologies, we now have the ability to become “a node on the network” in order “not to miss anything.”

But there is always a disadvantage to CPA. Research has shown the slow demise of critical thinking and cognition with technology-enabled addiction as the culprit.

The insidious part is that people do not notice their own impairment. They are under the impression that the brain can do more than it is capable of. When in fact, it is degenerating.

Output Driven

 

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Pinta kaabtik moplano, yay nahuman.

There are movements cropping-up on social media sites that people must not publicly announce their plans. This is simply consistent to the pressure one might have if such plans won’t be materialized.

Individuals who excel at planning but struggle to materialize their plans often face what is known as the "intention-action gap." This discrepancy occurs when one's strategic foresight and detailed planning capabilities are not matched by the ability to execute those plans effectively.

Research suggests that this gap can be attributed to a variety of factors, including a lack of self-regulation, inadequate resources, and unforeseen external obstacles. Additionally, cognitive biases such as the planning fallacy—where individuals underestimate the time, costs, and risks of future actions while overestimating the benefits—play a significant role in this phenomenon (Hofmann et al., 2012).

Therefore, while these individuals may possess strong organizational skills and foresight, their execution often falters due to these psychological and practical barriers.

Meanwhile, people who are proficient in talking but not in doing are often described as having a high verbal fluency without corresponding action-oriented skills. This phenomenon is frequently linked to the concept of "all talk, no action," where individuals are skilled at articulating ideas, making promises, and engaging in persuasive communication, yet fail to follow through with concrete actions.

This behavior can stem from a variety of psychological and social factors. For instance, research indicates that such individuals may be driven by a desire for social approval and recognition, which they achieve through their verbal skills rather than through tangible accomplishments (Baumeister, 1982).

Additionally, the discrepancy between words and actions can be influenced by a lack of intrinsic motivation or practical competencies required to implement their ideas (Ryan & Deci, 2000). Then, while their conversational abilities may garner attention and praise, their lack of execution often leads to unfulfilled promises and unmet expectations.

The need to align our plans to their materialization and to “walk our talk” are often combinations of reflection, self-awareness and being true to your words.

Driving Force

 

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An kasina amoy nagbuhi sa ija kayag!

In the bestselling book of Mark Manson “Everything is F*cked,” he mentioned that hopelessness is the root of anxiety, mental illness and the cause of all addiction. Delusion, addiction, and obsession – these are all the mind’s desperate and compulsive attempts at generating hope...”

So with envy.

When a person desires the physical attributes and material possessions of others, it emanates a spark to do something to acquire such attributes and things. This will propel the person’s interest to strive, or if skewed, to do such in a wrong or illegal manner.

Clinical psychologist Josh Gressel (2017) mentioned you can make envy as a primary emotion that you can use for your growth. At its most basic, to envy is to want something that someone else has and that you think you lack. Self-acceptance may be the most important step of all to keep you on the envy treadmill.

By reframing envy as a signal for potential growth rather than a source of resentment, an individual can channel this emotion constructively. For instance, instead of begrudging a colleague's success, one can analyze the skills or strategies that contributed to their achievements and strive to emulate or adapt these for personal development.

This transformative approach involves self-reflection and a proactive attitude, where envy becomes a rubric for setting higher standards and pursuing continuous improvement. In essence, by understanding and redirecting the energy behind envy, it becomes a valuable tool for enhancing one's capabilities and achieving greater fulfilment.

Envy is often rooted in low self-esteem – sometimes from very early unmet childhood needs where the person feels inherently not good enough. An envious person may frequently ‘compare and despair’ and find themselves wanting. They feel deficient in themselves and have a constant hunger to fill that deficiency (Dempsey, 2022).

Without allowing the thinking process to have its deepened flow and with the pressing distractions the mind is experiencing, one can NOT proceed to self-assessment.

By cultivating self-awareness, we can harness envy as a positive motivator instead of allowing it to remain as a negative emotion.

 

Unclear Plans

 

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Yay lamang plano…

There were times when a mother nags in the house for those youngsters who are constantly lying around the bed and lounge on chairs for hours without being productive. These episodes are actually development stages of the teens to take up responsibilities which can be useful In the future.

Psychology Today mentions that in humans, the drive for productivity tends to be motivated by a set of overlapping natural desires. These include a desire to contribute to a group, a desire to be challenged and mentally stimulated, and a desire to fulfil basic needs such as food, shelter, and safety.

An individual's productivity hinges on mental energy and a sense of internal and external motivation. It often emerges naturally from work that they find inherently meaningful or valuable.

Unfortunately, there are countless ways for productivity to be derailed. For example, it takes time for the brain to disengage from one set of tasks and to commit to another, so switching between many tasks at once will slow overall productivity.

Once the individual’s motivation is weak, chances are the person switches from one activity to the other leaving the first task to be unfinished. These situations are sometimes stemming up from envy – the person is motivated to perform another task since others are doing it or having a trendy output.

Decades of research suggest that some people are better able to execute and be productive than others and that personality, motivation, and emotions all play a key role in how well someone is able to get things done.

People may exhibit laziness and struggle to complete tasks for a variety of reasons. Often, underlying psychological factors such as fear of failure, lack of motivation, or low self-esteem can play a significant role.

Additionally, environmental factors like a lack of clear goals, poor time management skills, or a distracting environment can hinder productivity. In some cases, individuals might be dealing with mental health issues such as depression or anxiety, which can drain their energy and focus.

Ultimately, this discussion circles back to self-awareness and self-assessment. When individuals become self-aware, they can uncover the root causes of their laziness and low productivity. This understanding paves the way for devising effective strategies to move forward.