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Di ako malooy sa ila! This, if constantly
blurted out, is the reality inside a person’s heart. The lack of empathy is
always caused by too much considering on the SELF forgetting that OTHERS are
present in the spaces of small and big communities.
Empathy (Quist, 2018),
derived from the Greek word empatheia, which means ''passion or state of
emotion'', is the ability to feel what others are feeling. It is an important
part of human interaction that is unfortunately lacking in some people.
When lack of empathy is
extreme Quist mentions that severe problems can be the result. There are many
disorders related to a lack of empathy. They can be the result of genetics (or
the characteristics you inherited from your parents), environment (especially
in early childhood), disease, or physical or psychological damage and trauma
related to an event.
Since one causal
factor on the lack of empathy is the environment and even genes, parents must
be in control in the exposure of their children to empathic encounters while
they are still young. Value-oriented books are read and videos showing
affection to persons and other living things must be viewed by the kids.
A child with
attention deficit hyperactivity disorder may have a difficult time
understanding empathy. Children who are overwhelmed with too many emotional
feelings from parents and caregivers may also have trouble developing empathy
for others, child psychiatrist Dr. Liane Leedom explains. Children with
personality disorders such as narcissism, borderline personality disorder and
antisocial personality disorder may have a difficult time understanding empathy.
Children with addiction issues can also lack empathy for others, according to
Leedom.
According to Perkins
(2018), lack of empathy in the preteen or teenager can be one warning sign of a
psychiatric disorder. Other signs that should lead concerned parents to look
for medical help and guidance include cruelty to animals, fire-setting,
frequent lying, petty thievery, defiance, bullying others, aggressive behavior,
unresponsiveness to punishment and lack of remorse.
These young ones will
become the adults who do not consider others. It is not meaningful to them to
help others. Yet, there are those who are being hired to be public servants. It
is a scary scenario to encounter when people value more the tools rather than
the reason why there are tools.
People lacking
empathy don’t put themselves in another person’s shoes. Therefore, they
disregard others’ feelings, thoughts, and desires. One of the most outstanding
characteristics in people who lack empathy is their selfishness.
People who lack
empathy can be very selfish. They think about their own well-being first
without thinking about others’ needs. Also, they take advantage of situations
and people for their own benefit. In addition, they push the boundaries of
reciprocity. This means they only give if they get something in return. They
don’t do things disinterestedly. They relate to us in almost a standoffish way,
making manipulation a way of life.
Therefore, those
lacking empathy can be cold. When we experience an unpleasant situation with
them, we’ll end up feeling misunderstood or that they don’t care about us. This
is because they’re only concerned about their own well-being. These people are
unfriendly and have a difficult time connecting with others (exploringyourmind.com).
Going back to the
discourse on being people-centered than “systemic or tool-centered”. There are
those whose only concentration is to insist on the output not considering the
capacities of the human resource.
Employment, in the
best case scenario, is a business deal of mutual benefit. But in other
instances, the company is expending such minimal resources that they are taking
advantage of the employee. In the worst case scenario, through a combination of
slave-driving principles and psychological techniques to break you down, such a
job can morph into something very similar to actual slavery (Cyrus, 2014).
The Free Dictionary
defines a slave driver as (Industrial Relations & HR Terms) an employer who
demands excessively hard work from his employees. Without the considerations of
the well-being of the people, an absence of empathy is gleaned.
In an organization,
those who are tasked to guide people must consider their capacities through
profiling than insist on allowing them to be placed in a system they might not
have the orientation. Leaders must have empathy for them to see the humane side
of everything than drive people to be obedient incidentally concealing such
obedience to being slaves.
These are modern
times. Slavery is now considered as a crime to humanity.
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