Bite Back!

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Manggamit nan tawo para sa ila kaugalingon na mga intensyon! Take it, there are really people whom you think as friends but you later realize that they are ONLY befriending you for their selfish interests. By the time that you are not useful to them, they are nowhere in sight looking for other people to be used as their “stepping stones” to fill their deficits.

People who use others use their ability of manipulation while playing with their victims. They use others by showing their magical, attractive personality and by doing sweet talks with others such as by admiring or showing support for that make them trustworthy in front of others.

Those who use others’ works by damaging their self-esteem such as passing negative personal remarks about others, sometimes rely on sarcasm or irony so that others feel inferior about themselves that they are not equal or lesser in front of them (optimisticminds.com).

While listening to the persons you consider as friends, try to LISTEN deeper on the things that they are saying. If they are fond of criticizing others to the point of discrediting them of their innate goodness, these so-called friends are dangerous. They will also DO THE SAME to you once they will be with other people. Their agenda is to feed on their needs and they are not concerned about your well-being.

It's no wonder why self-centeredness is typically viewed as the most unappealing personality trait in a potential friend. Most of us struggle to maintain a sense of compassion and understanding toward others. Self-centered people, on the other hand, don’t bother to take the time to understand another person’s point-of-view or feelings (Vasquez, 2017).

Self-centered people are not easy to spot; they are capable of being personable and kind upon meeting new people. Those who are self-centered know they are, on some level, and are usually aware of how unappealing the quality is. But there are tell-tale signs once you look at the situations carefully. Most of the time, your opinions don’t matter. These people push their selfish intentions disrespecting your own stands on issues and even your personal convictions.

If there is a person in your life who seems exceedingly self-centered, he or she may suffer from narcissistic personality disorder. According to Dr. Dan Neuharth, “People with narcissistic personality disorder lack a healthy emotional core. They are driven by a moment-to-moment monitoring of their worth. Since they find it difficult to provide self-worth, they seek it from external sources.”

There is a movement these days on SELF-LOVE. It is timely to push these people away from our environment. If they are superiors or people whom your job depends on, let them wallow on their psychological illness. But once they bite you, bite back. Life is short to play victim. Just do this in a cultured manner where your values are intact.

Stay true to yourself and don’t ever partake in behavior that is beneath you. It will inevitably become very difficult to be kind to a self-centered person who is unkind to you, but you can alleviate any feelings of anger by focusing on the person you are and continuing to like that person. It’s also important to be realistic and understand that the self-centered person will never consider your needs. The self-centered person can have moments of generosity and charm, but for the most part, they are unaware of your needs and uninterested in meeting them.

“Individuals with this disorder rarely think they have a problem until they are on the verge of losing everything. Even then, their primary focus may be to maintain their veneer rather than to get to the root of their problem,” Neuharth said.

Let us be happy with ourselves even if we do not have a lot of friends. Let us hold on to the REAL ones so that we thrive with them in harmony. The world would be better if it is full of peaceful and fulfilled individuals. Do not be afraid to lose people who will just USE you.

Be afraid of losing yourself.