Unload

 

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Molabay da iton. Sometimes, it is difficult to get over with something bad which happened to us. The memory lingers and the pain in the heart seem to haunt us over and over again. But again, we are the ones to allow the hurt to affect us. We oftentimes linger on the bad stuff which shattered us…

Therein lies a stark difference that may explain why happiness dissipates and sometimes, pain lingers. Positive emotions are usually embraced, accepted, expressed and released out of our bodies into the world. Once they’re out, they’re gone; they can only be recreated from scratch with a new joyful experience. Negative emotions however, are often suppressed, ignored, rejected and held within us. They remain entangled with the memory of the experience that caused them in the first place.

Therefore, one thing we need to do is to express the hurt and the pain. This may cause a bit of awkward moments with a loved one or a friend but since they know us better, they’ll understand. There are also instances that we do not express our pain to others since we feel “weak” when we do so. But, we cannot be strong all the time, right?

With today’s modern conveniences, a person can physically survive a solitary existence. But that existence is probably not a happy one. Kirsten Weir (2012) posited: It may take time to heal from a bad break-up or being fired, but most people eventually get over the pain and hurt feelings of rejection.

The one who allows this pain to linger is the self. There might be traumatic experiences beyond our comprehension that is the reason why we have to seek help from a friend or even from a professional. We can see and observe tell-tale signs in us that we are hurting too much.

Researchers have documented the detrimental effects of initial emotional reactivity to daily stressors on future physical health outcomes but have yet to examine the effects of emotions that linger after a stressor occurs. Most of the hypotheses are geared towards negative effects.

We then can surrender to the divine. We fortify our faith by seeking for spiritual advisers. These people may enrich our positive outlooks and we can process the hurt in us. We can also write the feelings down. We UNLOAD.

Life is short to be bitter. Let us release the hurt in us and feel the beauty of the simple things around. Let us also be grateful with what we have right now. It may be an old saying, still it applies: Let us count our blessings!